Sunday, April 04, 2010
Sorry tales from guys hooked on hookers
Just finished reading this article, about guys not getting hooked on hookers.
It reminded me of an old escort friend of mine . She met a client who asked her to leave the industry, and he paid her a huge chunk of cash every month. Set her up in a plush pad in a very expensive part of town, and paid all her other expenses. All that he asked, was that she was available when he was in town, which was only a few times a year.
Well, this wasn't enough for my escort girlfriend. She chose to carry on working, and he discovered her ad in a mag. He challenged her, but he chose to continue to support her, and did so, until she left the industry.Clearly, he was not short of cash, but he could have chosen to spend it elsewhere.
The guys in the article seem to have got a raw deal, and don't sound like happy bunnies.
It reminded me of an old escort friend of mine . She met a client who asked her to leave the industry, and he paid her a huge chunk of cash every month. Set her up in a plush pad in a very expensive part of town, and paid all her other expenses. All that he asked, was that she was available when he was in town, which was only a few times a year.
Well, this wasn't enough for my escort girlfriend. She chose to carry on working, and he discovered her ad in a mag. He challenged her, but he chose to continue to support her, and did so, until she left the industry.Clearly, he was not short of cash, but he could have chosen to spend it elsewhere.
The guys in the article seem to have got a raw deal, and don't sound like happy bunnies.
Labels: Escorts, News, timeslive.co.za
Saturday, November 21, 2009
Questions for Belle de Jour
Q.You went to extraordinary lengths to stay anonymous; I understand that even your agent didn’t know your true identity. How did you manage that feat?
A.It turns out he did: I forgot that I had shown him an ID when we first met. He reminded me after the Times piece came out. I really believed Patrick didn’t know and therefore would have been incapable of outing me. In the end it turns out he was simply very trustworthy rather than actually kept in the dark. But for the most part, my accountant handled all the details. He set up the shell corporation which received payment for my writing, which then passed on the money to me as dividend payouts.
Q.On your blog recently, you considered whether men or women have it easier in life, and concluded that “if men had it easy, there wouldn’t be prostitutes.” Care to elaborate?
A.While there are many reasons why men go to prostitutes, I noticed a few trends that had to do with women. The inability to ask a partner for kinky sex, for instance, came up more than once. There were a couple of virgins as well, though that is less common now than it once was. And to some extent, my clients were men who were addicted to success. They knew I, as a call girl, would respond positively to their advances, whereas outside of the transaction a woman like me might not. After all, women are widely perceived as the gatekeepers to sex, so in theory they can have it as often as they like, and men do not get a say in that. It’s not universally true of course, but that is a dominant dynamic.
Q.What’s struck you about the controversy in the press that followed your revealing your identity?
A.There seems to be a lot of chatter in the U.K. papers surrounding me, about how my experience was a matter of class — though of course that isn’t strictly true. It can affect the level of agency one has. I suppose it does take a certain amount of awareness of value for someone, even in dire financial straits, to be able to say “I will have sex for £200, not £30.” That confidence can sometimes be more associated with social class, but I think it’s more to do either with education or self-esteem, which are not necessarily related. In any case, the capability either to believe you deserve to be valued more, or to imagine that, is required wherever it comes to payment. In a way I see it as being similar to the question of who believes they are candidates for university education and who does not, regardless of origin or native intelligence.
Q.How do you respond to critics who say your work sanitizes and normalizes prostitution, luring women into a career that is, in their view, inherently ruinous?
A.It’s a pity they think I’m the only one. If I had not written about the experience, I probably could have got away with never telling anyone, which would have been an attractive option — in fact, the one most women in the same situation make. I particularly like the word “luring.” It comes up a lot; must be the evocative, almost onomatopoetic cadence — it sounds so corrupt and oily. And it makes no sense that I would be luring people into this. Where is the advantage for me for even more people to be working as escorts? Shouldn’t I want all the quality clients to myself? They try to have it both ways: that I am an arch materialist only out for as much as I can get, and at the same time, that I am on a recruitment drive. It makes no sense really.
I have always tried to say on the blog and in interviews that prostitution is not a suitable career choice if you have doubts about your ability to handle it. Many women wrote to me asking advice and I tried to discourage most of them. You usually can tell even from an email who had their mind made up and who hasn’t.
Q.What’s a good predictor of being able to “handle it”?
A.Someone who asks about the specifics of the work, rather than how it feels or how I decided to do it. Someone whose requests show they’ve done research already, i.e. “I like Agency x and Agency y, which do you think would look after their girls better?” as opposed to “do you think I can do this without telling my boyfriend?”
Q.SuperFreakonomics profiles a woman, who goes by the name of Allie, a former computer programmer who turned to sex work and is now going back to school to study economics. Does the book’s description of her ring true to you?
A.Yes, very much so. At the time I was writing I was in contact with courtesans who were also blogging, such as Jet Set Lara. The difference between my earnings and theirs was great, but I was probably having more actual sex while they earned far more. It’s also covered in the TV series of my book, in fact –- Billie Piper’s Belle starts earning a lot more when she stops the by-the-hour work and goes independent, setting her rates higher and having fewer clients.
Q.What of the question in SuperFreakonomics, then — why don’t more women take to prostitution?
A.Sex with strangers squicks them out? I’ve noticed a tendency in some of my female friends to rationalize sex decisions they make — a hookup or one-night stand. If they had to do that several times a week, it would be tiring, if not emotionally devastating. Being able to divide sex-for-love and all-other-sex is not something especially usual.
Q.Is it especially strange seeing yourself portrayed on television, considering Piper’s Belle is a kind of double of a double of you?
A.Very. At first it was uncomfortable because the show is an adaptation of the book, so it diverges from me pretty widely — someone even started a Facebook group called “Belle de Jour knows what a palindrome is!” because the character didn’t. But because I was anonymous, I came to view it as an advantage: if people imagined Billie Piper was me, they would start looking for girls like that, rather than girls like me. It was an added measure of obfuscation I came to appreciate.
Q.You quit the escort business in 2004. What kind of work are you doing now?
A.I’m working on an E.U. project that is meant to be translating research into public policy. Specifically, we look at the evidence for pesticide exposures causing neurodevelopmental disorders. There are pesticides which are banned from indoor use in the U.S. for this reason, but they’re still legal in E.U. So my job entails collating that evidence into coherent documents that policymakers would find approachable.
Q.Has anything you learned as a call girl proven useful in your life as a scientist?
A.It taught me a lot about being able to talk to a variety of people with different backgrounds and relating to their points of view. Also the value of listening to them instead of rabbiting on about Fact This and Evidence That quite so much. Also, the power of being a decent-looking blond woman in the world. People may not take you seriously at first but they don’t resent your approach. Once the door is cracked open, it’s up to you to show your value as an intelligent person. Leveraging my sexuality to promote my work? You bet.
Q.Do you expect your outing as Belle de Jour will affect your scientific work?
A.I imagine people will know who I am now, and I’ll have to answer the same three questions over and over. But if I then get to shoehorn in something about the work I do, that’s a price I can put up with.
Q.You’ve written a couple of bestselling books. Which writers do you look up to?
A.I’d love to be a Simon Singh someday, but in terms of my current writing abilities that’s a long way off. It’s a goal though.
Q.So you have a popular science book in the pipeline?
A.Well, I can rabbit on endlessly about chemoinformatics and the problems thereof. Whether anyone would enjoy reading that, outside the small group of people who do it, is another question. But starting with the proposition that if we were to make one of every possible drug-sized molecule that could exist, they would more than fill the entire universe. I think that’s a compelling image and a good place to start when talking about the challenges of drug discovery.
Quotes from A Few Questions for Belle de Jour, Call Girl and Scientist
By RYAN HAGEN
A.It turns out he did: I forgot that I had shown him an ID when we first met. He reminded me after the Times piece came out. I really believed Patrick didn’t know and therefore would have been incapable of outing me. In the end it turns out he was simply very trustworthy rather than actually kept in the dark. But for the most part, my accountant handled all the details. He set up the shell corporation which received payment for my writing, which then passed on the money to me as dividend payouts.
Q.On your blog recently, you considered whether men or women have it easier in life, and concluded that “if men had it easy, there wouldn’t be prostitutes.” Care to elaborate?
A.While there are many reasons why men go to prostitutes, I noticed a few trends that had to do with women. The inability to ask a partner for kinky sex, for instance, came up more than once. There were a couple of virgins as well, though that is less common now than it once was. And to some extent, my clients were men who were addicted to success. They knew I, as a call girl, would respond positively to their advances, whereas outside of the transaction a woman like me might not. After all, women are widely perceived as the gatekeepers to sex, so in theory they can have it as often as they like, and men do not get a say in that. It’s not universally true of course, but that is a dominant dynamic.
Q.What’s struck you about the controversy in the press that followed your revealing your identity?
A.There seems to be a lot of chatter in the U.K. papers surrounding me, about how my experience was a matter of class — though of course that isn’t strictly true. It can affect the level of agency one has. I suppose it does take a certain amount of awareness of value for someone, even in dire financial straits, to be able to say “I will have sex for £200, not £30.” That confidence can sometimes be more associated with social class, but I think it’s more to do either with education or self-esteem, which are not necessarily related. In any case, the capability either to believe you deserve to be valued more, or to imagine that, is required wherever it comes to payment. In a way I see it as being similar to the question of who believes they are candidates for university education and who does not, regardless of origin or native intelligence.
Q.How do you respond to critics who say your work sanitizes and normalizes prostitution, luring women into a career that is, in their view, inherently ruinous?
A.It’s a pity they think I’m the only one. If I had not written about the experience, I probably could have got away with never telling anyone, which would have been an attractive option — in fact, the one most women in the same situation make. I particularly like the word “luring.” It comes up a lot; must be the evocative, almost onomatopoetic cadence — it sounds so corrupt and oily. And it makes no sense that I would be luring people into this. Where is the advantage for me for even more people to be working as escorts? Shouldn’t I want all the quality clients to myself? They try to have it both ways: that I am an arch materialist only out for as much as I can get, and at the same time, that I am on a recruitment drive. It makes no sense really.
I have always tried to say on the blog and in interviews that prostitution is not a suitable career choice if you have doubts about your ability to handle it. Many women wrote to me asking advice and I tried to discourage most of them. You usually can tell even from an email who had their mind made up and who hasn’t.
Q.What’s a good predictor of being able to “handle it”?
A.Someone who asks about the specifics of the work, rather than how it feels or how I decided to do it. Someone whose requests show they’ve done research already, i.e. “I like Agency x and Agency y, which do you think would look after their girls better?” as opposed to “do you think I can do this without telling my boyfriend?”
Q.SuperFreakonomics profiles a woman, who goes by the name of Allie, a former computer programmer who turned to sex work and is now going back to school to study economics. Does the book’s description of her ring true to you?
A.Yes, very much so. At the time I was writing I was in contact with courtesans who were also blogging, such as Jet Set Lara. The difference between my earnings and theirs was great, but I was probably having more actual sex while they earned far more. It’s also covered in the TV series of my book, in fact –- Billie Piper’s Belle starts earning a lot more when she stops the by-the-hour work and goes independent, setting her rates higher and having fewer clients.
Q.What of the question in SuperFreakonomics, then — why don’t more women take to prostitution?
A.Sex with strangers squicks them out? I’ve noticed a tendency in some of my female friends to rationalize sex decisions they make — a hookup or one-night stand. If they had to do that several times a week, it would be tiring, if not emotionally devastating. Being able to divide sex-for-love and all-other-sex is not something especially usual.
Q.Is it especially strange seeing yourself portrayed on television, considering Piper’s Belle is a kind of double of a double of you?
A.Very. At first it was uncomfortable because the show is an adaptation of the book, so it diverges from me pretty widely — someone even started a Facebook group called “Belle de Jour knows what a palindrome is!” because the character didn’t. But because I was anonymous, I came to view it as an advantage: if people imagined Billie Piper was me, they would start looking for girls like that, rather than girls like me. It was an added measure of obfuscation I came to appreciate.
Q.You quit the escort business in 2004. What kind of work are you doing now?
A.I’m working on an E.U. project that is meant to be translating research into public policy. Specifically, we look at the evidence for pesticide exposures causing neurodevelopmental disorders. There are pesticides which are banned from indoor use in the U.S. for this reason, but they’re still legal in E.U. So my job entails collating that evidence into coherent documents that policymakers would find approachable.
Q.Has anything you learned as a call girl proven useful in your life as a scientist?
A.It taught me a lot about being able to talk to a variety of people with different backgrounds and relating to their points of view. Also the value of listening to them instead of rabbiting on about Fact This and Evidence That quite so much. Also, the power of being a decent-looking blond woman in the world. People may not take you seriously at first but they don’t resent your approach. Once the door is cracked open, it’s up to you to show your value as an intelligent person. Leveraging my sexuality to promote my work? You bet.
Q.Do you expect your outing as Belle de Jour will affect your scientific work?
A.I imagine people will know who I am now, and I’ll have to answer the same three questions over and over. But if I then get to shoehorn in something about the work I do, that’s a price I can put up with.
Q.You’ve written a couple of bestselling books. Which writers do you look up to?
A.I’d love to be a Simon Singh someday, but in terms of my current writing abilities that’s a long way off. It’s a goal though.
Q.So you have a popular science book in the pipeline?
A.Well, I can rabbit on endlessly about chemoinformatics and the problems thereof. Whether anyone would enjoy reading that, outside the small group of people who do it, is another question. But starting with the proposition that if we were to make one of every possible drug-sized molecule that could exist, they would more than fill the entire universe. I think that’s a compelling image and a good place to start when talking about the challenges of drug discovery.
Quotes from A Few Questions for Belle de Jour, Call Girl and Scientist
By RYAN HAGEN
Labels: Belle de Jour, Call girls, Escorts, new york times, News
Monday, November 16, 2009
Belle de Jour outs herself
She had kept her identity secret for six years, defying millions of readers – and a host of literary experts – who had speculated about the author responsible for one of the internet's most widely read blogs.
But today the mystery was solved when a scientist from Bristol outed herself as Belle de Jour, the former escort behind the anonymous Diary of a London Call Girl.
Dr Brooke Magnanti kept quiet as a string of other writers were credited with her work, but after hearing she was about to be the subject of a Daily Mail exposé, the 34-year-old specialist in childhood cancer decided to reveal she was the real Belle, having worked as a prostitute to fund her PhD studies
Quotes from Belle de Jour revealed at last
This can put to rest all the rumours that Belle de Jour was a man, that Belle de Jour did not work in the industry at all.
I wonder whether she would have come out if the Mail were not going to expose her.
I had never imagined that she was a scientist. Interesting that the article states that loads of women who work in the industry are academics.
Update Related articles:Enough hand wringing on prostitution
But today the mystery was solved when a scientist from Bristol outed herself as Belle de Jour, the former escort behind the anonymous Diary of a London Call Girl.
Dr Brooke Magnanti kept quiet as a string of other writers were credited with her work, but after hearing she was about to be the subject of a Daily Mail exposé, the 34-year-old specialist in childhood cancer decided to reveal she was the real Belle, having worked as a prostitute to fund her PhD studies
Quotes from Belle de Jour revealed at last
This can put to rest all the rumours that Belle de Jour was a man, that Belle de Jour did not work in the industry at all.
I wonder whether she would have come out if the Mail were not going to expose her.
I had never imagined that she was a scientist. Interesting that the article states that loads of women who work in the industry are academics.
Update Related articles:Enough hand wringing on prostitution
Labels: Belle de Jour, Escorts, Guardian.co.uk, News
Saturday, April 04, 2009
Internet and phone privacy to end in Britain on Monday
Emails, web visits, and mobile phone calls for every person in Britain, will be monitored and stored for a year from Monday.
This Black London escort will go back to snail mail now, and the contents of my emails will change dramatically. I think internet cafes will have an increase in business from Monday. From now on anything private will have to be discussed face to face, with family, friends and clients.
I wonder whether this new law will transform the way some clients communicate with escorts via email or phone?
These are changing times.
This Black London escort will go back to snail mail now, and the contents of my emails will change dramatically. I think internet cafes will have an increase in business from Monday. From now on anything private will have to be discussed face to face, with family, friends and clients.
I wonder whether this new law will transform the way some clients communicate with escorts via email or phone?
These are changing times.
Labels: Escorts, independent.co.uk, Internet, News
Saturday, March 28, 2009
Don't forget to switch your lights off
Tuesday, March 10, 2009
Uproar in Switzerland over prostitute's burial
Some women in Switzerland have criticised a well known prostitute being buried close to John Calvin.
"If every woman that had children to raise alone turned to prostitution, the city of Geneva would be a bordello," said Amelia Christinat, a feminist and former member of the Swiss parliament who opposed Real's reburial.
Jacqueline Berenstein-Wavre, the first woman to head Geneva's parliament, also objected.
"No woman should rejoice at this transfer, which is nothing but the elevation of a prostitute and of prostitution in general by its male protectors," she told the daily Tribune de Geneve, which noted the scarcity of women buried in the honored ground, less than a quarter of the 350 graves.
I was not aware that discrimination existed in cemetries, but maybe someone can tell me otherwise.
"If every woman that had children to raise alone turned to prostitution, the city of Geneva would be a bordello," said Amelia Christinat, a feminist and former member of the Swiss parliament who opposed Real's reburial.
Jacqueline Berenstein-Wavre, the first woman to head Geneva's parliament, also objected.
"No woman should rejoice at this transfer, which is nothing but the elevation of a prostitute and of prostitution in general by its male protectors," she told the daily Tribune de Geneve, which noted the scarcity of women buried in the honored ground, less than a quarter of the 350 graves.
I was not aware that discrimination existed in cemetries, but maybe someone can tell me otherwise.
Labels: chron.com, News, Prostitutes
Tuesday, November 18, 2008
Ask the girls themselves your thoughts on prostitution
I have just had an email from Chris Vallance a journalist who works for BBC Radio four.
He is aware that I don't like talking to journalists, however if any of you would like to, please feel free to comment on his blog post
Ask the working girls themselves
He is aware that I don't like talking to journalists, however if any of you would like to, please feel free to comment on his blog post
Ask the working girls themselves
Labels: bbc radio 4, News, Prostitutes, Prostitution laws
Sunday, November 16, 2008
Crackdown on Paying for sex
Jacqui Smith said she expected to see some lapdancing clubs, which have mushroomed in recent years, close and fewer new ones opened under reforms triggered by concerns over a seedy culture of sexual titillation creeping across city centres. She will outline plans this week to criminalise paying for sex with a woman 'controlled for another person's gain'. The new offence will carry a hefty fine and criminal record, which could prevent those caught from getting jobs in sensitive occupations.
The legislation will cover women who have pimps or drug addicts who work to pay off their dealers as well as the rarer cases of trafficked women. This is expected to include the majority of Britain's 80,000 sex workers. Ignorance of a woman's circumstances will not be a defence. Kerb crawlers will be 'named and shamed', while those who pay a prostitute knowing she has been forcibly trafficked could face rape charges.
The measures are highly controversial, with critics arguing that men will seek other outlets if prostitution is driven off the streets. Smith said it was 'not mine or the government's responsibility to ensure that the demand is satisfied', adding: 'Is this something about which people have a choice with respect to their demands? Yes, they do. Basically, if it means fewer people are able to go out and pay for sex I think that would be a good thing.'
Quotes from Paying for sex to be Criminal offence
My understanding of this is that all brothels,parlours, massage parlours, and escort agencies will have to shut down.
The legislation will cover women who have pimps or drug addicts who work to pay off their dealers as well as the rarer cases of trafficked women. This is expected to include the majority of Britain's 80,000 sex workers. Ignorance of a woman's circumstances will not be a defence. Kerb crawlers will be 'named and shamed', while those who pay a prostitute knowing she has been forcibly trafficked could face rape charges.
The measures are highly controversial, with critics arguing that men will seek other outlets if prostitution is driven off the streets. Smith said it was 'not mine or the government's responsibility to ensure that the demand is satisfied', adding: 'Is this something about which people have a choice with respect to their demands? Yes, they do. Basically, if it means fewer people are able to go out and pay for sex I think that would be a good thing.'
Quotes from Paying for sex to be Criminal offence
My understanding of this is that all brothels,parlours, massage parlours, and escort agencies will have to shut down.
Labels: Escort agencies, News, Observer, Prostitution laws
Friday, November 14, 2008
The business of high end prostitution
Thursday, November 13, 2008
The political economy of the global sex trade
Sheila Jeffreys has a new book out, that talks about how profitable the sex trade is.
She believes prostitution is a harmful cultural practice, on a par with female genital mutilation.
Now, now Ms Jeffreys, that is one hell of a comparison. There is absolutely no way I would be working if I felt what I was doing was on a par with female genital mutilation.
She also points out in the Guardian article that women rarely make money from prostitution.
Well, all the women I know who are in the industry are making money. I have met some women who started off working in flats, and they were not complaining. Okay, I acknowledge that most of the women I know, would be considered not representative of the industry as a whole. They are escorts who charge high rates, but as far as I know most women in the industry make money.
She believes prostitution is a harmful cultural practice, on a par with female genital mutilation.
Now, now Ms Jeffreys, that is one hell of a comparison. There is absolutely no way I would be working if I felt what I was doing was on a par with female genital mutilation.
She also points out in the Guardian article that women rarely make money from prostitution.
Well, all the women I know who are in the industry are making money. I have met some women who started off working in flats, and they were not complaining. Okay, I acknowledge that most of the women I know, would be considered not representative of the industry as a whole. They are escorts who charge high rates, but as far as I know most women in the industry make money.
Labels: Escorts, Guardian.co.uk, News, Prostitutes
Saturday, October 18, 2008
The Credit crunch and its effects on the escort industry
Most of the articles that I have read since the start of the credit crunch on the escort industry, say that it has not been affected by the financial markets.Joan Wypijewski has an interesting article that has another perspective, on the sex economy going limp.
She talks about gauging the stock market by the Girlfriend and High end stripper Index, before the crunch.
She also points out how escort rates have been moving like the dow ticker. I have noticed that some escorts have dropped their rates in the past thirty days. Some have started to offer half hour appointments.
This Black London escort will not drop her rates.
Some escorts are like therapists, and how many men will give up the escort budget?
Will High end wives, girlfriends and escorts have to provide more for less in this climate?
Or are we all screwed?
She talks about gauging the stock market by the Girlfriend and High end stripper Index, before the crunch.
She also points out how escort rates have been moving like the dow ticker. I have noticed that some escorts have dropped their rates in the past thirty days. Some have started to offer half hour appointments.
This Black London escort will not drop her rates.
Some escorts are like therapists, and how many men will give up the escort budget?
Will High end wives, girlfriends and escorts have to provide more for less in this climate?
Or are we all screwed?
Labels: Alternet.org, Black escort, Escorts, London, News
Saturday, September 20, 2008
You don't know until you try
William Halby lost his bid to claim escorts as a reasonable medical expense to fight depression, on his taxes.
I wonder if he had read about Tas Sinadinos last year.
I wonder if he had read about Tas Sinadinos last year.
Labels: Escorts, new york post, News
Saturday, September 06, 2008
Judge Tills is judged for recruting prostitutes
Ronald H. Tills had the reputation as one of the toughest sentencing judges in Western New York during his 10 years as a State Supreme Court judge.
An embarrassed-looking Tills, 73, admitted Thursday that he recruited prostitutes for events sponsored by a nationwide fraternal men’s club called the Royal Order of Jesters.
He is no different to Richard Seigler pimping, or David Vitter.
I wonder how many prostitutes Ronald Tills sentenced when he was a judge. They must be laughing their asses off now.
Who would have thought this judge could do this?
An embarrassed-looking Tills, 73, admitted Thursday that he recruited prostitutes for events sponsored by a nationwide fraternal men’s club called the Royal Order of Jesters.
He is no different to Richard Seigler pimping, or David Vitter.
I wonder how many prostitutes Ronald Tills sentenced when he was a judge. They must be laughing their asses off now.
Who would have thought this judge could do this?
Labels: Buffalonews.com, Naming and shaming, News, Prostitutes
Friday, May 02, 2008
Deborah Palfrey hangs herself
Deborah Palfrey the DC madam, was found dead yesterday in a storage shed next to her mother's home. I think this is sad, she took her life as she didn't want to go to jail. She clearly was under a lot of stress, and some people in DC must have slept well last night, knowing that they will not be named and shamed
Update
Lili and Chere Juliette have both been added to my sidebar. Pay them a visit.
Have a good weekend.
Labels: Blogs.tampabay.com, Cherejuliette, Escort agencies, Escorts, News, Time.com, Venuslili.blogspot.com
Friday, April 04, 2008
Widow sues escorts over husband's death
A widow whose husband had a heart attack during sex with two prostitutes is suing the women for £1.1million.
The wealthy businessman, 38, had paid £2,000 for a kinky Christmas treat at a brothel.
He asked for electric shocks from a sex toy and the bill included ecstasy tablets and three bottles of champagne.
This is one of my worst fears. A client dying on me. I have some clients who take Viagra, and have heart conditions. I also have seen clients who mix Viagra with Cocaine, and it worries me.
If a client were to die on me, what happens to confidentiality?
Who would he like me to call in an emergency?
Is this a question that I need to ask all my clients at the start of a booking?
It is a tricky situation.
Reading this article takes it to another level altogether,as the widow is blaming the escorts for the husband's death.
Who is responsible?
Maybe I need to take a medical history from some of my clients, as I don't want my ass sued.
Have a good weekend.
The wealthy businessman, 38, had paid £2,000 for a kinky Christmas treat at a brothel.
He asked for electric shocks from a sex toy and the bill included ecstasy tablets and three bottles of champagne.
This is one of my worst fears. A client dying on me. I have some clients who take Viagra, and have heart conditions. I also have seen clients who mix Viagra with Cocaine, and it worries me.
If a client were to die on me, what happens to confidentiality?
Who would he like me to call in an emergency?
Is this a question that I need to ask all my clients at the start of a booking?
It is a tricky situation.
Reading this article takes it to another level altogether,as the widow is blaming the escorts for the husband's death.
Who is responsible?
Maybe I need to take a medical history from some of my clients, as I don't want my ass sued.
Have a good weekend.
Labels: Black escort, Escorts, London, mirror.co.uk, News
Thursday, March 13, 2008
Eliot Spitzer resigns and joins sex scandals rogue gallery
Another American politician named and shamed for visiting prostitutes.
Eliot Spitzer is fighting to avoid charges after his resignation.
Yvonne Fulbright, makes some interesting points on Power and Prostitutes: Why Powerful Men Can't Help Themselves.
More from the sex scandals rogue gallery:David Vitter paying the price of hypocrisy.
Labels: bloomberg.com, Cbsnews.com, Escorts, Foxnews.com, Naming and shaming, News, Prostitutes, Washingtonpost.com, Weblogs.baltimore.sun
Saturday, March 01, 2008
Funding to help London escorts,sex workers start a new life
Newly targeted funds of £800,000 were today awarded by London Councils to groups assisting women exit the associated violence and abuse of prostitution and looking into the root causes of the problem.Eaves Housing for Women is set to receive the bulk of the funding, £443,200 over four years, to investigate and tackle the root causes and pathways into trafficking and prostitution across all the London boroughs.The scheme will also help provide outreach services, advice, training, and access to supported housing for women seeking to escape from a life of prostitution.
It will be available in: Brent; Bromley; Camden; Croydon; Ealing; Enfield; Greenwich; Hackney; Hammersmith & Fulham; Haringey; Islington; Kensington & Chelsea; Lambeth; Lewisham; Newham; Southwark; Tower Hamlets; Waltham Forest; Wandsworth; Westminster.
Chairman of London Councils Grants Committee, Councillor Paul McCannah, said: “These specially targeted grants will help readdress the balance of representation and support of some of the most excluded women in the capital.“The fund will provide direct services to support and empower women to help themselves and enable innovative investigations into causes and routes into prostitution and trafficking."We hope this will provide many London women the opportunity to turn their negative experiences around by offering them a supportive environment and routes into fulfilling lifestyles and occupations.”
This is useful for the women out there who need assistance. For those of you who have not read it already the paper by Teela Sanders on becoming an ex sex worker is a good read.
It will be available in: Brent; Bromley; Camden; Croydon; Ealing; Enfield; Greenwich; Hackney; Hammersmith & Fulham; Haringey; Islington; Kensington & Chelsea; Lambeth; Lewisham; Newham; Southwark; Tower Hamlets; Waltham Forest; Wandsworth; Westminster.
Chairman of London Councils Grants Committee, Councillor Paul McCannah, said: “These specially targeted grants will help readdress the balance of representation and support of some of the most excluded women in the capital.“The fund will provide direct services to support and empower women to help themselves and enable innovative investigations into causes and routes into prostitution and trafficking."We hope this will provide many London women the opportunity to turn their negative experiences around by offering them a supportive environment and routes into fulfilling lifestyles and occupations.”
This is useful for the women out there who need assistance. For those of you who have not read it already the paper by Teela Sanders on becoming an ex sex worker is a good read.
Labels: 24.dash.com, Escorts, London, News, Prostitutes, Resources for Prostitutes, Sexworkers, Teela Sanders
Thursday, January 17, 2008
Ipswich killer Steve Wright's motive
I apologise for not having blogged for a while. Three close friends, and members of my family have had major crises. That has taken priority for me,and my availability has changed as a result.
Some sweet soul thought I had retired, and chose not to tell anyone about it.You will know when that happens.
I was watching the news today and cannot believe the Steve Wright trial has taken so long.
I wonder what his motive was too.
His DNA was everywhere, and yet he says he did not kill these women.
Some sweet soul thought I had retired, and chose not to tell anyone about it.You will know when that happens.
I was watching the news today and cannot believe the Steve Wright trial has taken so long.
I wonder what his motive was too.
His DNA was everywhere, and yet he says he did not kill these women.
Labels: Ipswich Murders, News, Prostitutes, ukpress.google.com
Friday, December 21, 2007
Escort client blacklist challenged in Canada
I have my view on naming and shaming which I have talked about here.
The confidentiality issue is tricky which is demonstrated here.
Some clients in Canada are challenging a website that has their details on it, as bad clients.
They claim the information on the site is false.
Can anyone tell me which client in their right mind, will admit to bad behaviour ie stealing from an escort, raping an escort, or physically assaulting an escort?
There is a possibility that an escort could lie about this, but I have not come across any, in the entire time that I have been escorting.
What do you think?
Labels: Escorts, globeandmail.com, Naming and shaming, News, security
Thursday, December 06, 2007
Tv stars moonlighting as escorts
There are some TV stars in the US who are moonlighting as escorts. This is not unusual, and goes on, but is kept hush, hush.
These are women who are otherwise unattainable by regular Joe's.
It is all about the money, at the end of the day.
Thank you to the reader who sent in this tip.
Labels: Dirtyhills.com, Escorts, News
