Wednesday, October 29, 2008

Nia dark and lovely two year blogging anniversary

It is two years since I started blogging today. I don't blog as much as I did when I started,as I do not have as much time to read other blogs, as I used to. Some of you have emailed and expressed your disappointment around this, but life has taken over, and I am doing what I can
Most of my inspiration comes from other blogs, and news on the internet.

I have several new returning visitors, who have signed up for my blog via email.

I have 323 posts, and 1724 comments to date.

The majority of my readers are from the UK, followed by the USA, Canada, Italy and France.

There have been 250,000 unique visits to my blog to date.

Thank you ,to all the bloggers who have linked to my blog posts, and blog in the two years.

Thank you all for reading.

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Friday, October 24, 2008

Is sex with a prostitute cheaper than going on a date

Evan Maloney adds to the debate that sex with a prostitute may be cheaper than going on a date.

What I found interesting in the responses to the sex-versus-prostitute debate was that men assumed that women always wanted more than just sex from a date. Or, paradoxically, men assumed that dating ends in marriage (which suggests women are more successful in getting what they want from the dating game than men) and divorce (which suggests women don’t, in fact, know what they really want).
So you tell me, don’t women just want to enjoy some wild sex sometimes without wanting anything more from a man? Do men really think women always have their eye on the mating prize?

Evan Maloney raises an interesting point, that some men have difficulty knowing that they are used by some women just for sex.

Casual sex is okay for me as a hooker, but when I am not hooking it isn't.

I am allowed to be inconsistent.

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Monday, October 20, 2008

What sort of men visit escorts?

I was challenged by Beau last year in my too close for comfort post, when I stated that I didn't think that men who worked in my profession visited escorts or prostitutes.

His response to me was:

What kind of men did you once think were typical clients Nia?

Was it just this client who changed your mind?

What kind of men do you now think are typical clients?

What has this done to change your opinion of men?

I assume for the worst?

Though it is okay for a woman in the same profession to be an escort?

I'm genuinely not having a go - just trying to follow the thoughts ....Is it a sociological view you had?

It just gets close to a moral view - that it is only a certain kind of man who buys sex, which is so close to the view that only a certain kind of woman sells sex.

Beau has a point.

Do I think there is a type of man who visits escorts?

Well, no is the short answer. I thought at one time, that some men who worked in certain professions would not, but I have been proved wrong, with some of these men crossing my front doorstep.

When I started escorting, I assumed men who visited escorts were all sad and lonely. That is not the case, in my experience.

Louis Bernieres has an interesting article, which I came across called I am not the man who visits prostitutes.

He mentions a man who is disgusted by a bin full of milky condoms, when he went to see a prostitute, and has never visited a prostitute since. This issue is raised by some punters on messageboards and in reviews.

I can understand how a client may feel about this, and yet I am fascinated by other clients who go to brothels or parlours, and sit in waiting rooms with other men, waiting to see a girl. I am also fascinated by the men who before all the STD scares, wanted to visit women who had not washed in between clients, and who used to offer bareback.

The husband's description in the article of his wife is very depressing. I can understand why he would want to visit a prostitute, based on his description of his wife. However it would have been useful to hear her description of her marriage.

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Saturday, October 18, 2008

The Credit crunch and its effects on the escort industry

Most of the articles that I have read since the start of the credit crunch on the escort industry, say that it has not been affected by the financial markets.Joan Wypijewski has an interesting article that has another perspective, on the sex economy going limp.

She talks about gauging the stock market by the Girlfriend and High end stripper Index, before the crunch.

She also points out how escort rates have been moving like the dow ticker. I have noticed that some escorts have dropped their rates in the past thirty days. Some have started to offer half hour appointments.

This Black London escort will not drop her rates.

Some escorts are like therapists, and how many men will give up the escort budget?

Will High end wives, girlfriends and escorts have to provide more for less in this climate?

Or are we all screwed?

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Thursday, October 16, 2008

Newspapers,reporters,escorts and articles

I have been approached over the years by journalists who are writing articles about the escort industry, in the daily papers. I have always turned them down, as I don't trust the press. I think about the numbers of escorts who are outed or misrepresented by the press, and I feel I don't want to be a part of that. This is not always the case, some good stuff has been reported, but the bad stuff outweighs the good stuff in my opinion.

Today I received a call from one of the major UK men's magazines, who wanted to feature my blog.

I turned them down. Had I been an anonymous escort blogger, I may have considered their request. This is what you need to do to remain anonymous.

Some of my colleagues, and friends read this magazine. I have visions of my whole network finding out about me, if my blog was featured in this magazine. It would be too close for comfort.

So it does not appeal. I am certain that there are other UK escorts that crave this level of exposure. Good luck to them.

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Wednesday, October 15, 2008


I have just received news that my friend's son was murdered yesterday. He was shot, as his girlfriend was cheating on him, with someone else. His mother passed out when she received the news.

When is this gun crime going to stop????

I feel for you J, and my prayers go out to you.

I can only imagine what it is like for a parent to lose their child.

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Wednesday, October 08, 2008

Whoremiles for Dutch sexworkers

Prostitutes in the Dutch city of Eindhoven are to be awarded "credits" in return for good behaviour under a new scheme to encourage them to leave the industry.

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Tuesday, October 07, 2008

Messageboards,punters,escorts and pot shots

I went away for a few days, as you know. I got a call from a friend this afternoon alerting me to a nasty post on Punternet about me.

Some individual who calls him or herself Rockenroll, and claims to have seen me in 2005, had this to say

The pictures are fake (and not even of the same person). She is a nice person and gives a good service, but is a long way from the pictures.

I don't know who this individual is. I have worked as an escort since 2005, and have an internet presence. I am aware that anyone who has a presence on the internet, can expect someone to say something about them, at some point.

This person needs to get his or her facts straight. I have several reviews on Punternet by multiple reviewers, who are respected.

Surely if I was using fake pictures, they would have pointed this out, right?

It would be really useful for me to know whose photos RockenRoll believes I am using. I posess the CDs and prints for all my photoshoots, and do not have a twin.

I have shared my views on messageboard dynamics, and the things that some individuals will do. As I said before, some of these people have deep rooted issues, and by attacking others, they get some sense of gratification and recognition.My view is that some members of these boards have a strong need to control and dominate, and bring their unresolved issues of omnipotence, onto messageboards, and start acting out.

I no longer read messageboards regularly ,as I am bored with the content. I do not have the time or energy to engage with individuals who suffer from delusions of grandeur.

As Peridot Ash points out, there will always be people on messageboards who will flame escorts.

Escorts have to be careful what they say, or they attract the wrong types. It only takes one totally insecure, fucked-up prick out there, name and location unknown to the “community,” who would love to teach an uppity bitch whore who says something he doesn’t agree with on a message board a nice little lesson in person. And she’d never know if it was jerkoff69 or Schlongbooger or DaddyButtFuck or whoever from the message board.

An escort friend who had a high profile, and has retired this year, had a false review written about her. She could not figure out who had written the review, and years after the review was posted, it became clear that the reviewer was another escort. Yes, another escort, who was a close friend of hers. The site owner removed the review.This is a cut throat business.

Rockenroll could be another escort, for all I know.

As Jenny de Milo points out Selling your sisters out = bad. Times are tough for some escorts out there, the credit crunch has hit them hard, and some escorts feel that there is not enough room for everyone to eat. This is the nature of the industry, and some escorts will hit out at others, who they believe are threatening their business. Or they get their pimps to do it for them.

This can be a very dangerous business and there are very angry men who have very serious issues with women who gravitate towards it.

Okay, so this guy or girl says that I have fake photos.

How have I survived in this business with fake photos for four years?

I have some clients and regulars who have found me via Punternet, but that is not where I get the bulk of my work from.

This guy or girl, wrote me a mediocre review a number of years ago in 2005, and strangely enough I got a lot of work on the back of that review. Some clients chose to come and see me out of idle curiousity,some thought the review was bollocks, and others liked my rebuttal.

The reality is that most clients do not read messageboards or reviews, so as an escort do not despair. It is hard for newbies to take this on board, but in time you will realise, that work comes in from various sources, and most people who will book you, make up their own minds.

There will always be sad bastards out there, but there are good guys too.

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Thursday, October 02, 2008

Nia dark and Lovely away

I will be away from Friday 3rd October 2008 to Sunday 5th October. I will not have internet access while I am away. You will be able to get in touch with me from Monday 6th October.

Have a great weekend.

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