Thursday, July 31, 2008
The Plot thickens
Anyway, when drama queeen was called in for a disciplinary, by the powers that be, he hit the roof. He was furious that I had spoken to them.
Hellooooooo, that is my job.
Did the idiot really, really, really expect me to turn a blind eye to his bad practice?
He has been forced to change his ways, and there is a part of me that is angry that it has taken the disciplinary for him to do this.
I spoke to him several times before, and gave him an opportunity to do so, but he was headstrong, arrogant, and thought he could make a quick buck.
I was scheduled to meet him this week, but he cancelled our meeting last week, as he wants to avoid facing me. He will have to meet with me at some point.
There are a number of issues that I have with this idiot, and they are around integrity, and honesty, and I do not think that I want to work with him any longer. As I feel that I cannot trust him again.
I definitely need a holiday.
Wednesday, July 30, 2008
Swearing at work
It has been brought to management's attention that some individuals throughout the company have been using foul language during the course of normal conversation with their colleagues. Due to complaints received from some employees who may be easily offended, this type of language will no longer be tolerated. We do, however, realise the critical importance of being able to accurately express your feelings when communicating with colleagues. Therefore, a list of 13 New and Innovative 'TRY SAYING' phrases have been provided so that proper exchange of ideas and information can continue in an effective manner.
I think you could do with more training
You don't have a f***ing clue, do you?
She's an aggressive go-getter.
She's a f***ing power-crazy b*tch
Perhaps I can work late
And when the f*** do you expect me to do this?
I'm certain that isn't feasible
F*** off a*se-hole
Well f*** me backwards with a telegraph pole
Perhaps you should check with...
Tell someone who gives a f***.
I wasn't involved in the project.
Not my f***ing problem, mate.
What the f***?
I'm not sure this can be implemented within the given timescale.
No f***ing chance mate.
It will be tight, but I'll try to schedule it in
Why the f*** didn't you tell me that yesterday?
He's not familiar with the issues
He's got his head up his f***ing a*se.
Excuse me, sir?
Oi, f*** face.
Of course, I was only going to be at home anyway
Yeah, who needs f***ing holidays anyway.
Tuesday, July 29, 2008
Hard times at work for Nia dark and Lovely
She has only been in post three months. My first impression of her was not favourable. The woman didn't even give me time to put my bag down, or have my morning cup of tea. She demanded that I submit a report, to be sent to her today, and scheduled a meeting for next month. My colleague started holiday yesterday, and I would have liked to talk things over with her, but as luck would have it I could not. I feel this bigwig was insensitive, and clearly wants to flex her muscles.
When my boss came in, I explained what had happened, and she said that I should have challenged her boss. She said that I needed to tell her to stop bullying me. I was amazed at her reaction. I am not likely to tell someone who I know has the power to axe my job, on a first meeting, to stop bullying me.
Then again, if we are all on the way out I probably have nothing to lose, right?
I feel that we are all going to lose our jobs pretty soon.Our boss has been dropping hints, for over a year now. However, whenever I ask her the question directly, she says we are fine until the next financial year. I have been made redundant before, and did not like the way I felt at the time. I have just spoken to a friend this evening, who knows someone who is being made redundant for the sixth time.
The atmosphere at work is tense. Restructuring and organisational change can create panic, fear and hostility, among staff. I have been hanging on, as I have been there for a while and want my redundancy package, and yet when I see jobs advertised, I worry about them passing me by. I have started applying for other jobs now, regardless.
The pressure is on.
I left work today with a headache, toothache, and knowing I need a holiday fast.
Contracting with clients
When her client left their contract ended.
He was foolish enough to get caught.
Why is she being contacted after the fact?
Who was the person seeking her services in the first place?
Did she force him to see her?
She points out how important it is for men to cover their tracks when they see escorts.
If your wives, or girlfriends find out, do not drag us into it.
What the hell are we supposed to say after the fact, to your angry partners?
Sorry just doesn't cut it, in this instance.
It is your responsibility to make sure your family do not find out. If you are foolish enough to be caught deal with the consequences.
Monday, July 28, 2008
Dinner dates with escorts
X, is so not my idea of a friend.
When I first started escorting, and went on my first dinner date, my client shortchanged me. I had assumed he looked at my site, and knew my fee. Big mistake on my part. I learned my lesson. I don't like having to remind clients of my fees, but there are so many con artists about, it is important to make things clear from the start. He was over from the US, to check on his business in the UK. Well mannered, well dressed, gave me the impression that he was not the sort of man that would do such a thing. Furthermore he was in his late sixties, and I guess I thought a man of his age would know better.I was fooled by his appearance. Mistake number two.
I was pretty relaxed the whole evening, and this was one of the few occasions where I did not take my payment upfront. In fact I counted the fee the following day,the reason being that I thought there was no way a man in his late sixties, in his line of business, and staying in a five star boutique hotel would con me. Mistake number three.
By the time I realised what had happened, he was on a flight back to New York. I believe what he did was intentional ,and deliberate. I recognise that I had a responsibility to check the money in front of him, and challenge him. Furthermore, when he asked about the dinner date, I should have reminded him of my fee, and not assumed he had looked at my site.
Sometimes the only way in which some people can learn, is from their mistakes. Oh how I have changed since then.
As Emilie says I will work for money not food.
I paid for college has been added to my sidebar, pay her a visit.
Tuesday, July 22, 2008
Wise words on how to make a woman happy
It's not difficult to make a woman happy. A man only needs to be:
1. a friend
2. a companion
3. a lover
4. a brother
5. a father
6. a master
7. a chef
8. an electrician
9. a carpenter
10. a plumber
11. a mechanic
12. a decorator
13. a stylist
14. a sexologist
15. a gynecologist
16. a psychologist
17. a pest exterminator
18. a psychiatrist
19. a healer
20. a good listener
21. an organizer
22. a good father
23. very clean
44. compassionateWITHOUT FORGETTING TO:
45. give her compliments regularly
46. love shopping
47. be honest
48. be very rich
49. not stress her out
50. not look at other girlsAND AT THE SAME TIME, YOU MUST ALSO:
51. give her lots of attention, but expect little yourself
52. give her lots of time, especially time for herself
53. give her lots of space, never worrying about where she goes IT IS VERY IMPORTANT:
54. Never to forget:* birthdays* anniversaries* arrangements she makes
HOW TO MAKE A MAN HAPPY
1. Show up naked
2. Bring food
Sunday, July 20, 2008
My decision is final, always was, and always will be.
Does this man know what keeping a mistress involves?
Show me the money honey.
Then he did something that was out of line. So I binned him.
He could not accept that I had binned him, and continued to contact me via phone and email, for over a year regularly. I ignored the calls and emails. Then he slowed down, but continued to make contact at intervals, pleading with me to make contact with him.
I have had the discussion, about clients falling in love with escorts, with Sarah Summers and other escort friends.Sarah has clients falling in love with her all the time. One friend wants all her clients to fall in love with her, and is okay with it. It is too much of a headache for me. I feel that when a client falls in love with an escort, it is a sign that an escort has done her job well. When the client starts to feel that he is not a client, and that he is in that special category, then you know you have done your job well. It is amusing when a client really believes that you are in love with him, and just don't want to admit it.
I must not burst that bubble, right?
Going back to X, he called me today, but with a new number, so I took the call.I didn't put the phone down on him, and heard him out. Guess what, he wanted to know why I didn't take his calls.A bit of the selective memory thing going on here.
*Here we go again*
I repeated what I had said years ago, and kept the conversation brief. He emailed me earlier this year, under another address, wanting me to communicate with him. I ignored the email.
My policy when things get out of control, is to cease all communication. Sadly, some people take longer than others to get this message. Some people don't get it at all.
I have a high tolerance level, but that does not mean that I don't have limits. Those of you who know me, are aware that I am easygoing, lighthearted, and relaxed, but I have boundaries. When those boundaries are crossed, that is it.
Since his call this afternoon, he has sent me a text.
What a drag!
He has just sent me an email titled silence and slow tears. The contents say that age cannot wither me, nor custom stale my infinite variety.
He is sorry that he has been banished but still wants to meet me as a punter.
Readers can you see what I have to contend with???
He has made contact three times today, and will continue, all over again.
Thursday, July 10, 2008
Nia dark and lovely breathes a huge sigh of relief
I found a forum where someone could not find their harddrive on a laptop similar to mine, and it was attached to the floppy drive, but hidden behind it.
I have an aspect to my personality that sometimes will not give up, until I am certain, or find a solution. Unfortunately, that aspect of my personality does not kick in at all times.
I called Mr Techie last night,and told him what I had read on the forum. He did not believe me, and asked me to send him the link to the forum.He then sent me an email saying he would come back again today. He came round today, and lo and behold I was damn right. He was very embarassed and apologetic. There is something quite strange about me pointing out to a computer expert where the hard drive is, and being right about it.
I paid him again, as this is his job, and he is self employed. So in total he got six hours work out of me, and he is not cheap, but I got my data back.
Yup, I have it all back, fantastic!
I have saved everything on a memory stick already, I did it right away. I hope I can do this consistently.
Back up, back up, back up at all times.
Wednesday, July 09, 2008
Gutted, devastated, and in denial, it can only happen to me
Well, today the techie came round, to retrieve my data. Whatever he planned to do was not working. The device that he was using kept flashing, and he could not understand what the complication was. So, he went to his car to get a different device, hoping it would do the trick. That would not work either. I was not surprised, those of you who know me well, will know nothing is ever simple in my life. I told him that he should have come expecting the worst possible scenario, because strange things happen around me.
Anyway, four hours later after dismantling my laptop, no hard drive could be found. Yes, unbelievable, I had no physical hard drive on my laptop. How I have used it these past few years, God only knows.The mind boggles. I had taken it in for repair four years ago, and that is the only time it has been out of my sight.
So, I have lost seven years of work, gone, disappeared, lost. Documents, publications from authors that were not released to the public, reports, notes,complaints, the whole caboodle.
How do I feel?
Numb, powerless, and from now on having to back up at every opportunity like a maniac.
They say computers are a good thing, but I want the old days back, when I can find my material. Hopefully, I have some hard copies of stuff somewhere, or I probably shredded it all, when computers came along.
Luck is not something that comes my way often, and the only person who can understand this is Sarah Summers, as our lives are similar.
Big thanks to Sarah and a special friend for all your support around this.
*heads off to weep about my seven years of lost data, wondering how I will start from scratch again*
Tuesday, July 01, 2008
Paying for the consequences
I have taken it to the top, as it is my responsibility to do so. I spoke to my mum about this, and she said, if he goes down, why should I go down (no pun intended) with him.
So, I wait to see what this drama queen will do when he is shown the door.The idiot cannot see the error of his ways. I can hear it now, I am the bitch that brought him down.