Thursday, July 31, 2008

The Plot thickens

The drama queen that I mentioned in paying for the consequences ,is on a disciplinary. For those of you who may be confused about how I work, I work for more than one organisation. I offer my services to a number of organisations, so could be considered a bit like a tart.

Anyway, when drama queeen was called in for a disciplinary, by the powers that be, he hit the roof. He was furious that I had spoken to them.

Hellooooooo, that is my job.

Did the idiot really, really, really expect me to turn a blind eye to his bad practice?

He has been forced to change his ways, and there is a part of me that is angry that it has taken the disciplinary for him to do this.

I spoke to him several times before, and gave him an opportunity to do so, but he was headstrong, arrogant, and thought he could make a quick buck.

I was scheduled to meet him this week, but he cancelled our meeting last week, as he wants to avoid facing me. He will have to meet with me at some point.

There are a number of issues that I have with this idiot, and they are around integrity, and honesty, and I do not think that I want to work with him any longer. As I feel that I cannot trust him again.

I definitely need a holiday.

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Wednesday, July 30, 2008

Swearing at work

Swearing at work.
It has been brought to management's attention that some individuals throughout the company have been using foul language during the course of normal conversation with their colleagues. Due to complaints received from some employees who may be easily offended, this type of language will no longer be tolerated. We do, however, realise the critical importance of being able to accurately express your feelings when communicating with colleagues. Therefore, a list of 13 New and Innovative 'TRY SAYING' phrases have been provided so that proper exchange of ideas and information can continue in an effective manner.
Try Saying:
I think you could do with more training
Instead Of:
You don't have a f***ing clue, do you?
Try Saying:
She's an aggressive go-getter.
Instead Of:
She's a f***ing power-crazy b*tch
Try Saying:
Perhaps I can work late
Instead Of:
And when the f*** do you expect me to do this?
Try Saying:
I'm certain that isn't feasible
Instead Of:
F*** off a*se-hole
Try Saying:
Instead Of:
Well f*** me backwards with a telegraph pole
Try Saying:
Perhaps you should check with...
Instead Of:
Tell someone who gives a f***.
Try Saying:
I wasn't involved in the project.
Instead Of:
Not my f***ing problem, mate.
Try Saying:
That's interesting.
Instead Of:
What the f***?
Try Saying:
I'm not sure this can be implemented within the given timescale.
Instead Of:
No f***ing chance mate.
Try Saying:
It will be tight, but I'll try to schedule it in
Instead Of:
Why the f*** didn't you tell me that yesterday?
Try Saying:
He's not familiar with the issues
Instead Of:
He's got his head up his f***ing a*se.
Try Saying:
Excuse me, sir?
Instead Of:
Oi, f*** face.
Try Saying:
Of course, I was only going to be at home anyway
Instead Of:
Yeah, who needs f***ing holidays anyway.
Thank You.

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Tuesday, July 29, 2008

Hard times at work for Nia dark and Lovely

I walked into work this morning, and as I headed to reception, I met the head of our region. I had never met her before, but she was photocopying my diary, and my colleague's diary. As soon as I walked into reception, she bombarded me with questions about my job. She wanted figures, and said that we were not value for money. She added that we were under threat, which did not come as a surprise, and that we would have to justify being there. We are being audited for the second time this year.

She has only been in post three months. My first impression of her was not favourable. The woman didn't even give me time to put my bag down, or have my morning cup of tea. She demanded that I submit a report, to be sent to her today, and scheduled a meeting for next month. My colleague started holiday yesterday, and I would have liked to talk things over with her, but as luck would have it I could not. I feel this bigwig was insensitive, and clearly wants to flex her muscles.

When my boss came in, I explained what had happened, and she said that I should have challenged her boss. She said that I needed to tell her to stop bullying me. I was amazed at her reaction. I am not likely to tell someone who I know has the power to axe my job, on a first meeting, to stop bullying me.

Then again, if we are all on the way out I probably have nothing to lose, right?

I feel that we are all going to lose our jobs pretty soon.Our boss has been dropping hints, for over a year now. However, whenever I ask her the question directly, she says we are fine until the next financial year. I have been made redundant before, and did not like the way I felt at the time. I have just spoken to a friend this evening, who knows someone who is being made redundant for the sixth time.

The atmosphere at work is tense. Restructuring and organisational change can create panic, fear and hostility, among staff. I have been hanging on, as I have been there for a while and want my redundancy package, and yet when I see jobs advertised, I worry about them passing me by. I have started applying for other jobs now, regardless.

The pressure is on.

I left work today with a headache, toothache, and knowing I need a holiday fast.

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Contracting with clients

I have just read Sarah's post on whether she is the vulnerable one. I agree with her,and can empathise with her.

When her client left their contract ended.

He was foolish enough to get caught.

Why is she being contacted after the fact?

Who was the person seeking her services in the first place?

Did she force him to see her?

She points out how important it is for men to cover their tracks when they see escorts.

If your wives, or girlfriends find out, do not drag us into it.

What the hell are we supposed to say after the fact, to your angry partners?

Sorry just doesn't cut it, in this instance.

It is your responsibility to make sure your family do not find out. If you are foolish enough to be caught deal with the consequences.

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Monday, July 28, 2008

Dinner dates with escorts

Most escorts offer a dinner date package. It is normally from three to four hours which includes private time. It can vary from one to two hours private time, within the four hours. Each escort has their own individual package. I offer dinner dates, and occasionally will come across a client, who does not expect me to charge him for the time we take, to have the meal. This was one of the problems that I had with X. He would say at the start of a dinner date that we were friends, and he didn't expect me to charge him.

X, is so not my idea of a friend.

When I first started escorting, and went on my first dinner date, my client shortchanged me. I had assumed he looked at my site, and knew my fee. Big mistake on my part. I learned my lesson. I don't like having to remind clients of my fees, but there are so many con artists about, it is important to make things clear from the start. He was over from the US, to check on his business in the UK. Well mannered, well dressed, gave me the impression that he was not the sort of man that would do such a thing. Furthermore he was in his late sixties, and I guess I thought a man of his age would know better.I was fooled by his appearance. Mistake number two.

I was pretty relaxed the whole evening, and this was one of the few occasions where I did not take my payment upfront. In fact I counted the fee the following day,the reason being that I thought there was no way a man in his late sixties, in his line of business, and staying in a five star boutique hotel would con me. Mistake number three.

By the time I realised what had happened, he was on a flight back to New York. I believe what he did was intentional ,and deliberate. I recognise that I had a responsibility to check the money in front of him, and challenge him. Furthermore, when he asked about the dinner date, I should have reminded him of my fee, and not assumed he had looked at my site.

Sometimes the only way in which some people can learn, is from their mistakes. Oh how I have changed since then.

As Emilie says I will work for money not food.

I paid for college has been added to my sidebar, pay her a visit.

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Tuesday, July 22, 2008

Wise words on how to make a woman happy

How to Make a Woman Happy

It's not difficult to make a woman happy. A man only needs to be:

1. a friend

2. a companion

3. a lover

4. a brother

5. a father

6. a master

7. a chef

8. an electrician

9. a carpenter

10. a plumber

11. a mechanic

12. a decorator

13. a stylist

14. a sexologist

15. a gynecologist

16. a psychologist

17. a pest exterminator

18. a psychiatrist

19. a healer

20. a good listener

21. an organizer

22. a good father

23. very clean

24. sympathetic

25. athletic

26. warm

27. attentive

28. gallant

29. intelligent

30. funny

31. creative

32. tender

33. strong

34. understanding

35. tolerant

36. prudent

37. ambitious

38. capable

39. courageous

40. determined

41. true

42. dependable

43. passionate

44. compassionateWITHOUT FORGETTING TO:

45. give her compliments regularly

46. love shopping

47. be honest

48. be very rich

49. not stress her out

50. not look at other girlsAND AT THE SAME TIME, YOU MUST ALSO:

51. give her lots of attention, but expect little yourself

52. give her lots of time, especially time for herself

53. give her lots of space, never worrying about where she goes IT IS VERY IMPORTANT:

54. Never to forget:* birthdays* anniversaries* arrangements she makes


1. Show up naked

2. Bring food

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Sunday, July 20, 2008

My decision is final, always was, and always will be.

I binned an escalating regular client in 2005. X fell in love with me, and started to make demands on me. He would call me several times a day, to the point where he was blocking other callers from getting through to me. Then there were the constant remarks on how he felt about me escorting,whenever we met.Then there was the whole problem of terminating bookings on time, as it was too distressing for him to leave. He always referred to me as his mistress, but we had never made any arrangement.

Does this man know what keeping a mistress involves?

Show me the money honey.

Then he did something that was out of line. So I binned him.

He could not accept that I had binned him, and continued to contact me via phone and email, for over a year regularly. I ignored the calls and emails. Then he slowed down, but continued to make contact at intervals, pleading with me to make contact with him.

I have had the discussion, about clients falling in love with escorts, with Sarah Summers and other escort friends.Sarah has clients falling in love with her all the time. One friend wants all her clients to fall in love with her, and is okay with it. It is too much of a headache for me. I feel that when a client falls in love with an escort, it is a sign that an escort has done her job well. When the client starts to feel that he is not a client, and that he is in that special category, then you know you have done your job well. It is amusing when a client really believes that you are in love with him, and just don't want to admit it.

I must not burst that bubble, right?

Going back to X, he called me today, but with a new number, so I took the call.I didn't put the phone down on him, and heard him out. Guess what, he wanted to know why I didn't take his calls.A bit of the selective memory thing going on here.

*Here we go again*

I repeated what I had said years ago, and kept the conversation brief. He emailed me earlier this year, under another address, wanting me to communicate with him. I ignored the email.

My policy when things get out of control, is to cease all communication. Sadly, some people take longer than others to get this message. Some people don't get it at all.

I have a high tolerance level, but that does not mean that I don't have limits. Those of you who know me, are aware that I am easygoing, lighthearted, and relaxed, but I have boundaries. When those boundaries are crossed, that is it.

Since his call this afternoon, he has sent me a text.

What a drag!


He has just sent me an email titled silence and slow tears. The contents say that age cannot wither me, nor custom stale my infinite variety.

He is sorry that he has been banished but still wants to meet me as a punter.

Readers can you see what I have to contend with???

He has made contact three times today, and will continue, all over again.

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Thursday, July 10, 2008

Nia dark and lovely breathes a huge sigh of relief

You know that I was feeling gutted and devastated yesterday. Well, after Mr Techie left yesterday, I had a splitting headache, and could not believe what happened. So I went onto google, to find out if anyone had been in a similar situation. Good old google.

I found a forum where someone could not find their harddrive on a laptop similar to mine, and it was attached to the floppy drive, but hidden behind it.

I have an aspect to my personality that sometimes will not give up, until I am certain, or find a solution. Unfortunately, that aspect of my personality does not kick in at all times.

I called Mr Techie last night,and told him what I had read on the forum. He did not believe me, and asked me to send him the link to the forum.He then sent me an email saying he would come back again today. He came round today, and lo and behold I was damn right. He was very embarassed and apologetic. There is something quite strange about me pointing out to a computer expert where the hard drive is, and being right about it.

I paid him again, as this is his job, and he is self employed. So in total he got six hours work out of me, and he is not cheap, but I got my data back.

Yup, I have it all back, fantastic!

I have saved everything on a memory stick already, I did it right away. I hope I can do this consistently.

Back up, back up, back up at all times.

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Wednesday, July 09, 2008

Gutted, devastated, and in denial, it can only happen to me

Two weeks ago my laptop crashed.The screen was black each time I turned it on. I had a techie come and look at it, and he said there was something wrong with the graphics card. He reassured me that I had not lost any data. He told me that repairing it, would cost more than getting a new laptop, so I was better off getting a new laptop. The plan was that he could transfer all my data onto a new laptop.

Well, today the techie came round, to retrieve my data. Whatever he planned to do was not working. The device that he was using kept flashing, and he could not understand what the complication was. So, he went to his car to get a different device, hoping it would do the trick. That would not work either. I was not surprised, those of you who know me well, will know nothing is ever simple in my life. I told him that he should have come expecting the worst possible scenario, because strange things happen around me.

Anyway, four hours later after dismantling my laptop, no hard drive could be found. Yes, unbelievable, I had no physical hard drive on my laptop. How I have used it these past few years, God only knows.The mind boggles. I had taken it in for repair four years ago, and that is the only time it has been out of my sight.

So, I have lost seven years of work, gone, disappeared, lost. Documents, publications from authors that were not released to the public, reports, notes,complaints, the whole caboodle.

How do I feel?

Numb, powerless, and from now on having to back up at every opportunity like a maniac.

They say computers are a good thing, but I want the old days back, when I can find my material. Hopefully, I have some hard copies of stuff somewhere, or I probably shredded it all, when computers came along.

Luck is not something that comes my way often, and the only person who can understand this is Sarah Summers, as our lives are similar.

Big thanks to Sarah and a special friend for all your support around this.

*heads off to weep about my seven years of lost data, wondering how I will start from scratch again*

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Tuesday, July 01, 2008

Paying for the consequences

I am going through a stressful period at work again. I have become the whistleblower. I am managing a staff member who has broken so many rules in the book, and has been involved in bad practice. The first time this was brought to my attention, I told him that he needed to change his ways, as there would be consequences. We met again, and he was angry with me, and told me that he was not going to follow my advice. I told him that was his choice, but there would be consequences. He has a cocky attitude, and has stuff on the internet, that is very misleading, and misrepresents the work that he does.

I have taken it to the top, as it is my responsibility to do so. I spoke to my mum about this, and she said, if he goes down, why should I go down (no pun intended) with him.

So, I wait to see what this drama queen will do when he is shown the door.The idiot cannot see the error of his ways. I can hear it now, I am the bitch that brought him down.

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