Friday, September 05, 2008
Covering your tracks or not
I met someone this week , who is going through a divorce. She has been married for ten years, and just discovered her husband was having an affair. Her husband moved his mistress into one of their properties, while they were married. She didn't see it coming, as he seems to have covered his tracks. She found out about his infidelity via a friend.Unbelievable.
I wonder what type of human being can move their mistress, into one of their homes, while he is still married. I thought I had seen and heard it all, but this is so below the belt, I am speechless.
Maybe some of you out there can help me understand this man?
What does it take to show respect to your wife, and call it a day, without moving your mistress in. It turns out that he had a string of women throughout his marriage.
So, the divorce proceedings are on, which he is trying to mess up. She has a fortune, that he wants a part of. The man(b******) has no limits.
I continue to read what is going on with Sarah Summers, and one of her ex clients. Her client's wife has posted some comments in this post. One of the comments is that Sarah encourages married men to come to see her, and I guess this extends to all escorts.
I disagree, married men choose to come and see us, they know what they are doing. I don't advertise, and say that I only want to see married men. Whether they are married or not, is irrelevant to me. I do my job,they pay me for my time, end of story. If they choose to see me again, that is up to them.
It is a fact that about eighty per cent of my clients are married. I imagine it is the same for most escorts. I think it says a lot about their marriages, and needs.
I can understand why a wife would be upset, but to blame the escort totally, is a cop out. It fails to look at her husband's responsibility. I am not about to ask a client whether his wife has approved that he is seeing me. I live in the real world, and want to get paid. I also do not see myself as someone who is destroying marriages either, in fact I think escorts can have the opposite effect.
If a client does not cover his tracks, that is his funeral.
I wonder what type of human being can move their mistress, into one of their homes, while he is still married. I thought I had seen and heard it all, but this is so below the belt, I am speechless.
Maybe some of you out there can help me understand this man?
What does it take to show respect to your wife, and call it a day, without moving your mistress in. It turns out that he had a string of women throughout his marriage.
So, the divorce proceedings are on, which he is trying to mess up. She has a fortune, that he wants a part of. The man(b******) has no limits.
I continue to read what is going on with Sarah Summers, and one of her ex clients. Her client's wife has posted some comments in this post. One of the comments is that Sarah encourages married men to come to see her, and I guess this extends to all escorts.
I disagree, married men choose to come and see us, they know what they are doing. I don't advertise, and say that I only want to see married men. Whether they are married or not, is irrelevant to me. I do my job,they pay me for my time, end of story. If they choose to see me again, that is up to them.
It is a fact that about eighty per cent of my clients are married. I imagine it is the same for most escorts. I think it says a lot about their marriages, and needs.
I can understand why a wife would be upset, but to blame the escort totally, is a cop out. It fails to look at her husband's responsibility. I am not about to ask a client whether his wife has approved that he is seeing me. I live in the real world, and want to get paid. I also do not see myself as someone who is destroying marriages either, in fact I think escorts can have the opposite effect.
If a client does not cover his tracks, that is his funeral.
Labels: Escorts, Sarahsummers, Thoughts
Monday, August 25, 2008
Escorts and Outcalls
I have just read Sarah Summer's hilarious post on the glory of the outcall. One of the things I love about Sarah is her ability to laugh at some of these situations. I think she is a saint, with some of the stuff that she puts up with from clients. I think she raises an important point when she says
when you have travelled thirty miles plus, and have to travel back the same mileage, you sometimes go through with it rather than cut your losses and retain your dignity.
It reminds me of the time I went on an outcall ,which I discussed in the risks that clients who see escorts take and getting caught in the act post.
I remember going to see a client in his home, and as he opened the door I started sneezing. I am sensitive to dust, and his place had obviously not been cleaned in months. I sat down on the sofa, and started sneezing again. At this point, I was thinking there was no way that anything would take place. I spoke to him for a while, and my assessment of him was that he had severe and enduring mental health issues. This was not something that came across on the phone. I left, only to discover that two of my escort friends, who worked for escort agencies in London, had been to see him that day. He had chased them down the road.They had both mentioned this client, when we had coffee that evening. I came away from his house itching, and threw away everything that I wore.
I have only been stopped once at a hotel, since I have been escorting. It was a hotel on the Strand. I went to an outcall at about 3am. I tend not to go on late night outcalls these days, unless prearranged. Anyway, as I walked into the hotel, I had a long coat on. The little man on reception starts hollering "Madam, madam". I ignored him, walked straight to the lift, and saw my client. Two hours later, I came down to the lobby, and smiled and winked at the little man on my way out.
I have an Arab escort friend who has been asked to produce her passport,at some hotels on Park Lane, in London. I am surprised as she was taken to Arabia by some prince to live in a harem for a number of years. When these princes come to London for their holidays, she lives in these hotels for months, until they leave. The staff know her, so I don't understand it.
She has no problem showing her identity, I have never been asked for my passport at a hotel. The thing is, that I don't walk around with my passport in my bag, unless I am taking a flight. I am aware that there are some hotels that have this policy on Park Lane.
I used to have regular outcalls at a particular hotel on Park Lane, always after midnight. Whenever I walked in, I always bumped into a cleaner hoovering the carpet. I felt really awkward as she must have figured out what was going on. Such is life.
I heard of a case where the concierge at a hotel in Knightsbridge, literally runs down the corridor after escorts who come into the hotel, harassing them.
Fortunately, I don't have problems with hotel outcalls, as a Black escort in London.
when you have travelled thirty miles plus, and have to travel back the same mileage, you sometimes go through with it rather than cut your losses and retain your dignity.
It reminds me of the time I went on an outcall ,which I discussed in the risks that clients who see escorts take and getting caught in the act post.
I remember going to see a client in his home, and as he opened the door I started sneezing. I am sensitive to dust, and his place had obviously not been cleaned in months. I sat down on the sofa, and started sneezing again. At this point, I was thinking there was no way that anything would take place. I spoke to him for a while, and my assessment of him was that he had severe and enduring mental health issues. This was not something that came across on the phone. I left, only to discover that two of my escort friends, who worked for escort agencies in London, had been to see him that day. He had chased them down the road.They had both mentioned this client, when we had coffee that evening. I came away from his house itching, and threw away everything that I wore.
I have only been stopped once at a hotel, since I have been escorting. It was a hotel on the Strand. I went to an outcall at about 3am. I tend not to go on late night outcalls these days, unless prearranged. Anyway, as I walked into the hotel, I had a long coat on. The little man on reception starts hollering "Madam, madam". I ignored him, walked straight to the lift, and saw my client. Two hours later, I came down to the lobby, and smiled and winked at the little man on my way out.
I have an Arab escort friend who has been asked to produce her passport,at some hotels on Park Lane, in London. I am surprised as she was taken to Arabia by some prince to live in a harem for a number of years. When these princes come to London for their holidays, she lives in these hotels for months, until they leave. The staff know her, so I don't understand it.
She has no problem showing her identity, I have never been asked for my passport at a hotel. The thing is, that I don't walk around with my passport in my bag, unless I am taking a flight. I am aware that there are some hotels that have this policy on Park Lane.
I used to have regular outcalls at a particular hotel on Park Lane, always after midnight. Whenever I walked in, I always bumped into a cleaner hoovering the carpet. I felt really awkward as she must have figured out what was going on. Such is life.
I heard of a case where the concierge at a hotel in Knightsbridge, literally runs down the corridor after escorts who come into the hotel, harassing them.
Fortunately, I don't have problems with hotel outcalls, as a Black escort in London.
Labels: Black escort, Escort agencies, Escorts, London, Outcalls, Sarahsummers
Tuesday, July 29, 2008
Contracting with clients
I have just read Sarah's post on whether she is the vulnerable one. I agree with her,and can empathise with her.
When her client left their contract ended.
He was foolish enough to get caught.
Why is she being contacted after the fact?
Who was the person seeking her services in the first place?
Did she force him to see her?
She points out how important it is for men to cover their tracks when they see escorts.
If your wives, or girlfriends find out, do not drag us into it.
What the hell are we supposed to say after the fact, to your angry partners?
Sorry just doesn't cut it, in this instance.
It is your responsibility to make sure your family do not find out. If you are foolish enough to be caught deal with the consequences.
When her client left their contract ended.
He was foolish enough to get caught.
Why is she being contacted after the fact?
Who was the person seeking her services in the first place?
Did she force him to see her?
She points out how important it is for men to cover their tracks when they see escorts.
If your wives, or girlfriends find out, do not drag us into it.
What the hell are we supposed to say after the fact, to your angry partners?
Sorry just doesn't cut it, in this instance.
It is your responsibility to make sure your family do not find out. If you are foolish enough to be caught deal with the consequences.
Labels: Black escort, London, Sarahsummers, Thoughts
Sunday, July 20, 2008
My decision is final, always was, and always will be.
I binned an escalating regular client in 2005. X fell in love with me, and started to make demands on me. He would call me several times a day, to the point where he was blocking other callers from getting through to me. Then there were the constant remarks on how he felt about me escorting,whenever we met.Then there was the whole problem of terminating bookings on time, as it was too distressing for him to leave. He always referred to me as his mistress, but we had never made any arrangement.
Does this man know what keeping a mistress involves?
Show me the money honey.
Then he did something that was out of line. So I binned him.
He could not accept that I had binned him, and continued to contact me via phone and email, for over a year regularly. I ignored the calls and emails. Then he slowed down, but continued to make contact at intervals, pleading with me to make contact with him.
I have had the discussion, about clients falling in love with escorts, with Sarah Summers and other escort friends.Sarah has clients falling in love with her all the time. One friend wants all her clients to fall in love with her, and is okay with it. It is too much of a headache for me. I feel that when a client falls in love with an escort, it is a sign that an escort has done her job well. When the client starts to feel that he is not a client, and that he is in that special category, then you know you have done your job well. It is amusing when a client really believes that you are in love with him, and just don't want to admit it.
I must not burst that bubble, right?
Going back to X, he called me today, but with a new number, so I took the call.I didn't put the phone down on him, and heard him out. Guess what, he wanted to know why I didn't take his calls.A bit of the selective memory thing going on here.
*Here we go again*
I repeated what I had said years ago, and kept the conversation brief. He emailed me earlier this year, under another address, wanting me to communicate with him. I ignored the email.
My policy when things get out of control, is to cease all communication. Sadly, some people take longer than others to get this message. Some people don't get it at all.
I have a high tolerance level, but that does not mean that I don't have limits. Those of you who know me, are aware that I am easygoing, lighthearted, and relaxed, but I have boundaries. When those boundaries are crossed, that is it.
Since his call this afternoon, he has sent me a text.
What a drag!
Update
He has just sent me an email titled silence and slow tears. The contents say that age cannot wither me, nor custom stale my infinite variety.
He is sorry that he has been banished but still wants to meet me as a punter.
Readers can you see what I have to contend with???
He has made contact three times today, and will continue, all over again.
Does this man know what keeping a mistress involves?
Show me the money honey.
Then he did something that was out of line. So I binned him.
He could not accept that I had binned him, and continued to contact me via phone and email, for over a year regularly. I ignored the calls and emails. Then he slowed down, but continued to make contact at intervals, pleading with me to make contact with him.
I have had the discussion, about clients falling in love with escorts, with Sarah Summers and other escort friends.Sarah has clients falling in love with her all the time. One friend wants all her clients to fall in love with her, and is okay with it. It is too much of a headache for me. I feel that when a client falls in love with an escort, it is a sign that an escort has done her job well. When the client starts to feel that he is not a client, and that he is in that special category, then you know you have done your job well. It is amusing when a client really believes that you are in love with him, and just don't want to admit it.
I must not burst that bubble, right?
Going back to X, he called me today, but with a new number, so I took the call.I didn't put the phone down on him, and heard him out. Guess what, he wanted to know why I didn't take his calls.A bit of the selective memory thing going on here.
*Here we go again*
I repeated what I had said years ago, and kept the conversation brief. He emailed me earlier this year, under another address, wanting me to communicate with him. I ignored the email.
My policy when things get out of control, is to cease all communication. Sadly, some people take longer than others to get this message. Some people don't get it at all.
I have a high tolerance level, but that does not mean that I don't have limits. Those of you who know me, are aware that I am easygoing, lighthearted, and relaxed, but I have boundaries. When those boundaries are crossed, that is it.
Since his call this afternoon, he has sent me a text.
What a drag!
Update
He has just sent me an email titled silence and slow tears. The contents say that age cannot wither me, nor custom stale my infinite variety.
He is sorry that he has been banished but still wants to meet me as a punter.
Readers can you see what I have to contend with???
He has made contact three times today, and will continue, all over again.
Labels: Black escort, clients, London, Sarahsummers, Thoughts
Wednesday, May 07, 2008
Some requests from clients
A year ago a client called me up, and asked whether he could film me during the booking. I told him that was not possible. The same man calls me every two weeks since he made the request, leaving various messages.
The pest thinks I will see him, dream on.
Today I get an email from someone asking me whether he can take photos of me during the booking.
Hellooooooooooooooo!
I don't show my face on my site, so he thinks he can come and see me and I will say feel free to take all the pics you want.
Sarah Summers has a great post on how escorts are not social workers are we, I agree with her when she says some men think we are stupid. I have also had emails where clients who have not met me, say they just want to come see me, talk, nothing else, for no charge.
Things will start to get complicated if I have to check potential clients for cameras before a booking.
Check that they have not stolen my knickers.
Clients who arrive and say they have to go to the cashpoint after the booking as they had no time to get the money. I send them back anyway as my rule is payment upfront. Anyone who does not respect my T&C's is shown the door. This is rare, and has happened twice in three years. The majority of my clients know the rules, and respect them.
Check that they have not taken Viagra and recreational drugs together.
When things get complicated for me it isn't fun.
The pest thinks I will see him, dream on.
Today I get an email from someone asking me whether he can take photos of me during the booking.
Hellooooooooooooooo!
I don't show my face on my site, so he thinks he can come and see me and I will say feel free to take all the pics you want.
Sarah Summers has a great post on how escorts are not social workers are we, I agree with her when she says some men think we are stupid. I have also had emails where clients who have not met me, say they just want to come see me, talk, nothing else, for no charge.
Things will start to get complicated if I have to check potential clients for cameras before a booking.
Check that they have not stolen my knickers.
Clients who arrive and say they have to go to the cashpoint after the booking as they had no time to get the money. I send them back anyway as my rule is payment upfront. Anyone who does not respect my T&C's is shown the door. This is rare, and has happened twice in three years. The majority of my clients know the rules, and respect them.
Check that they have not taken Viagra and recreational drugs together.
When things get complicated for me it isn't fun.
Labels: Black escort, clients, London, Sarahsummers, Thoughts
Monday, March 24, 2008
Easter weekend meeting Sarah Summers
I met Sarah Summers yesterday, as she was passing through London for a few hours. We last saw each other eight months ago. Yesterday was brief but well worth it. Sarah is one of the few escort friends that I have.
Sarah is one of the kindest escorts that I have ever come across, who never fails to make me laugh. We had so much catching up to do, exchanged bad client lists, and shared some of the difficult stuff we have gone through as escorts, since we last met.
One of the themes of the discussion yesterday was the illusion of passion in the escort industry, and regular clients a mixed blessing .
Sarah and I have got ourselves into pickles over the years, with clients. I recognise that it is inevitable in this industry.One of the things that I love about Sarah, is that we can laugh about stuff, that is challenging, and are able to support each other.
I have just got back from the supermarket. A man came up to me, as I was shopping and asked me whether I wanted a massage. I thought he was weird, and wondered why he had approached me, as I was in grunge mode. He had no name label on his clothing, and I could not figure out why he had asked me whether I wanted a massage. It turns out he was working in the supermarket, and was offering a shiatsu walk in back, neck and shoulder massage. It was my lucky day I guess, as he offered me a free trial, which I accepted. The last massage I had a few weeks ago, had sex tagged onto it. I am not complaining.
So he placed his hands on my neck, and my body went into relax mode. I just love massages. After the free trial, he offered me a paid session which I took up, and gave him a tip which surprised him.It felt weird having a massage from a man, and not having sex attached to it.
What has my life become?
Hope you had a good easter, and have a good week.
Sarah is one of the kindest escorts that I have ever come across, who never fails to make me laugh. We had so much catching up to do, exchanged bad client lists, and shared some of the difficult stuff we have gone through as escorts, since we last met.
One of the themes of the discussion yesterday was the illusion of passion in the escort industry, and regular clients a mixed blessing .
Sarah and I have got ourselves into pickles over the years, with clients. I recognise that it is inevitable in this industry.One of the things that I love about Sarah, is that we can laugh about stuff, that is challenging, and are able to support each other.
I have just got back from the supermarket. A man came up to me, as I was shopping and asked me whether I wanted a massage. I thought he was weird, and wondered why he had approached me, as I was in grunge mode. He had no name label on his clothing, and I could not figure out why he had asked me whether I wanted a massage. It turns out he was working in the supermarket, and was offering a shiatsu walk in back, neck and shoulder massage. It was my lucky day I guess, as he offered me a free trial, which I accepted. The last massage I had a few weeks ago, had sex tagged onto it. I am not complaining.
So he placed his hands on my neck, and my body went into relax mode. I just love massages. After the free trial, he offered me a paid session which I took up, and gave him a tip which surprised him.It felt weird having a massage from a man, and not having sex attached to it.
What has my life become?
Hope you had a good easter, and have a good week.
Labels: Black escort, Chevalier, Escorts, Sarahsummers, Thoughts
