Nia Dark and Lovely, a Black Escort in London

I went away for a few days, as you know. I got a call from a friend this afternoon alerting me to a nasty post on Punternet about me.

Some individual who calls him or herself Rockenroll, and claims to have seen me in 2005, had this to say

The pictures are fake (and not even of the same person). She is a nice person and gives a good service, but is a long way from the pictures.

I don't know who this individual is. I have worked as an escort since 2005, and have an internet presence. I am aware that anyone who has a presence on the internet, can expect someone to say something about them, at some point.

This person needs to get his or her facts straight. I have several reviews on Punternet by multiple reviewers, who are respected.

Surely if I was using fake pictures, they would have pointed this out, right?

It would be really useful for me to know whose photos RockenRoll believes I am using. I posess the CDs and prints for all my photoshoots, and do not have a twin.

I have shared my views on messageboard dynamics, and the things that some individuals will do. As I said before, some of these people have deep rooted issues, and by attacking others, they get some sense of gratification and recognition.My view is that some members of these boards have a strong need to control and dominate, and bring their unresolved issues of omnipotence, onto messageboards, and start acting out.

I no longer read messageboards regularly ,as I am bored with the content. I do not have the time or energy to engage with individuals who suffer from delusions of grandeur.

As Peridot Ash points out, there will always be people on messageboards who will flame escorts.

Escorts have to be careful what they say, or they attract the wrong types. It only takes one totally insecure, fucked-up prick out there, name and location unknown to the “community,” who would love to teach an uppity bitch whore who says something he doesn’t agree with on a message board a nice little lesson in person. And she’d never know if it was jerkoff69 or Schlongbooger or DaddyButtFuck or whoever from the message board.

An escort friend who had a high profile, and has retired this year, had a false review written about her. She could not figure out who had written the review, and years after the review was posted, it became clear that the reviewer was another escort. Yes, another escort, who was a close friend of hers. The site owner removed the review.This is a cut throat business.

Rockenroll could be another escort, for all I know.

As Jenny de Milo points out Selling your sisters out = bad. Times are tough for some escorts out there, the credit crunch has hit them hard, and some escorts feel that there is not enough room for everyone to eat. This is the nature of the industry, and some escorts will hit out at others, who they believe are threatening their business. Or they get their pimps to do it for them.

This can be a very dangerous business and there are very angry men who have very serious issues with women who gravitate towards it.

Okay, so this guy or girl says that I have fake photos.

How have I survived in this business with fake photos for four years?

I have some clients and regulars who have found me via Punternet, but that is not where I get the bulk of my work from.

This guy or girl, wrote me a mediocre review a number of years ago in 2005, and strangely enough I got a lot of work on the back of that review. Some clients chose to come and see me out of idle curiousity,some thought the review was bollocks, and others liked my rebuttal.

The reality is that most clients do not read messageboards or reviews, so as an escort do not despair. It is hard for newbies to take this on board, but in time you will realise, that work comes in from various sources, and most people who will book you, make up their own minds.

There will always be sad bastards out there, but there are good guys too.

Labels: Black escort, Escorts, Friction, JennydeMilo, London, Messageboards, Punternet

The internet has transformed the escort industry. At the moment, there are numerous posts on the mass market, and how endless choice is creating unlimited demand. Some posts on a messageboard, have left me feeling disgusted. This is not unusual for me, with some of the boards in this industry. I cannot get over the arrogance of some of the posters, and lack of respect for escorts.

I find the group dynamics on messageboards fascinating. I read the boards to get up to date on what is happening, and to read the warnings section. I am down to reading one board now, and have lost interest with the rest.

The whole concept of online personas and real life personas, I find interesting. There are some people who I avoid, purely on their posting style, and the types of reviews they write. I find it amusing when some of these posters, claim that they should not be judged on what they post on forums, or write in reviews; as in real life they are different. I acknowledge that I do judge them, and am not surprised when I see their details, on the warning sections of the escort only boards.

I see so many similarities on what Compartments writes about messageboards and how some male members on messageboards like to flame escorts. She makes an important point here

Escorts have to be careful what they say, or they attract the wrong types. It only takes one totally insecure, fucked-up prick out there, name and location unknown to the “community,” who would love to teach an uppity bitch whore who says something he doesn’t agree with on a message board a nice little lesson in person. And she’d never know if it was jerkoff69 or Schlongbooger or DaddyButtFuck or whoever from the message board.

You cannot guarantee, that some of these members will make a booking, with their handles. I do not care if someone claims to have a different persona offline, I do not want to take that risk.

I have and continue to witness, escorts who speak their mind, and boy do they get flamed, or labelled as nutters. Some of the male members who do the labelling, strangely enough cannot take a dose of their own medicine.

Compartments writes a great post on bored with the boards. The paragraph on "It's not a community" is hilarious. As she points out that

Some of the people writing there are suffering from delusions of grandeur that they are IMPORTANT, WELL-KNOWN, or POWERFUL in the community based on how much time they spend adding posts to their count.
If an escort is all caught up in the community illusion herself, she could make a pretty bad mistake based on the belief that some anonymous message board posters could make or break her business because they are “well-known,” meaning, they splatter themselves all over the forums and after a while, other members recognize their handles—Wow, there’s Bryan87 again at 5,462 posts! And he’s reviewed 109 whores! He must hold a lot of sway here! But in fact, the members are all UNKNOWNS outside the virtual community of the message board. Close your laptop, and they cease to exist as an actual, cohesive community, because they are scattered all over the place in offices, basements, and bedrooms posting ANONYMOUSLY. They are embarrassed about their so-called “hobby.” A community does not consist of one person alone whacking off in front of his computer while his family watches T.V. in the other room


Chevalier summarises clearly that some men out there do not know the limitations of knowledge in the paid sex industry.This is what I think is causing angst among some members of the community

As a result of being an underground economy, we will never know as much about potential playmates as people know about, say, potential investments in the stock market or "legitimate" businesses they are considering patronizing. There are no SEC and FASB mandating disclosures, backed up by audits by independent accountants. No FTC setting standards for "truth in advertising."

My view is that some members of these boards have a strong need to control and dominate, and bring their unresolved issues of omnipotence, onto messageboards, and start acting out.
Clearly some escorts feel they have to take the crap, as they feel that having a voice will affect their business.Some of these escorts rely on all their business from these boards.

Have a great weekend.

Labels: Black escort, Chevalier, Compartments, Friction, Joanne of Leeds, London, Messageboards

I had a conversation with another escort yesterday which I found really disturbing. Her identity, and address were posted on a messageboard, by another member.She has decided to leave the industry as a result.

I find the whole messageboard culture, fascinating and sickening. The first messageboard that I ever came across was the Punternet messageboard, which no longer exists.. I think it went down as a result of flame wars, allegations, accusations, and identities being revealed.

I think for someone who is new to the industry messageboards can give you some insight into what happens. I found some useful information on there, from other escorts, and the warning boards are useful too. I have also made contact with other escorts via the messageboards.

There is another side, that I find disturbing. The trolls, and the people who go into attack mode, for no reason, and resort to destroying lives. I have read about information being painted on front doors, tracking down members at work, and leaving threats,visits to schools, and it goes on and on and on.

There was an article in the Guardian on Monday about Celebrity Untouchables. It talked about how there is a law for some celebrities, and another for the rest of us. The idea of living a life beyond accountability and judgement might be many people's idea of heaven on earth, and this explains why large numbers of ordinary folk continue to crave celebrity.

Celebrities exist on the various messageboards, and you can see that they are able to do and say things that other members cannot get away with.Moderation on some boards is a joke.Some posts that are offensive, are allowed to stand on boards,well logically if a post is left to stand then it conforms to what the board owner wants or is happy to be posted.

I resent the fact that some people feel that they have the right to endanger lives. There is a lot of bullying that takes place on boards, and the people who dish out, are rarely able to take what is thrown at them.

I wonder whether anyone has done any research on messageboard culture on the internet?

I belong to other forums that have nothing to do with this industry, and the dynamics are similar, so I wonder whether it is just how some people behave, and are programmed, it is part of their nature.

I wonder whether the sense of gratification, and recognition that they get by behaving in this way, is important to them?

I think for the individuals who have been victims of these campaigns on messageboards, it is devastating, and ruins their lives. It sickens me, and saddens me, and I feel for anyone out there who has been on the receiving end of this behaviour.

My view is most of the people who carry out these attacks have major issues that they need to take to a therapist, but they are in so much denial that they believe they do not have issues.

A friend who I met via a messageboard said to me , a message board is a dictatorship, within any dictatorship any rules are merely the current whim of the dictator, because it is a dictatorship then any and all rules are there to be obeyed or ignored at the whim of the dictator thus rendering them useless, which in actual fact they are, if the rules were set in stone and enforced then that would reduce the power of the dictator.

Glengarry Leads points out what is happening in the US, and the use and abuse of power by messageboard celebrities.

It seems to be a universal problem.

Labels: Glengarry Leads, guardian, Messageboards, Punternet