Nia Dark and Lovely, a Black Escort in London

Glengarry and James B left some interesting comments on yesterday's post.There are two things that stood out for me in their comments.

G says

"Every time I see a Mercedes S-class drive by, I see all of those stacks of 20 dollar bills I handed over in my many years of doing it. That's about what I wasted. I sure could use the money now!"

James B says

"Quite honestly, I don't give a damn if I never see another pussy again. And, yes, I want my money back too. These women have exploited our weaknesses long enough. Pay back time! "

I imagine that G feels the way I do when I spent a ridiculous amount on a handbag, and realise that I could have spent the money on a holiday in the tropics. For the record I am not a handbag queen. This has only happened on two occasions.

I can identify with James B. I think when I go back to being a civilian, I will have difficulty explaining to my male partner, that I have had loads of sex, and do not need loads more.

I wonder how James expects escorts to payback their clients? I am struggling with James B's use of the word exploitation. Men who use escorts have urges and needs that they want to be met. No if's buts or maybe's.

Can we call the escorts who meet these needs, women who are skilled in exploitation of men?

*runs for cover*

I have added The Diary of an English Courtesan to my sidebar. Pay her a visit.

Have a good weekend.

Labels: Black escort, Glengarry Leads, James B Logwriter, Payback, Thoughts

I have just finished reading Six Years of Grace: Caregiving Episodes with My Mother

I would recommend it, and it will be added to my list of favourite books. Jennifer Sokol left a Carmelite monastery in Seattle, to take care of her mother after she had a stroke. Jennifer explores her relationship with her mother in her final days. It is inspirational, moving,amazing and sad; reading what she went through.

Her ability to be there for her mother round the clock is, remarkable. The moments that they share are, touching.Jennifer is able to draw on her faith, during the difficult times, and what is present between them feels sacred.

This was a tearjerker book for me, but it also had some funny parts. It was scary reading it, as my mother is over 65, and I could not imagine her being in the same situation. Jennifer's love for her mother grew stronger day by day, which is how I feel about my mother.



Glengarry Leads




I had expressed my sadness at the possibility of Glengarry Leads stopping blogging here.

I discovered yesterday that Glengarry has decided to stop blogging altogether. He feels he has no more to say. I enjoyed his blog, and he was one of my favourite reads. I have only been a part of the blogosphere for three months, but within that time I have formed relationships with some bloggers.

It feels weird, but I do feel a sense of community with some people. This is my first experience of losing a fellow blogger on the blogosphere, and I am sad. Glengarry had a lot to say, I believe. I respect his decision to stop.

I imagine that bloggers stop blogging for a variety of reasons. Most of us blog in our spare time, and if that time is no longer available, then you cannot blog.

I imagine that if bloggers are harassed by snoops, that can be another reason to stop blogging. I hope that Glengarry has not had to stop blogging because of harassment from readers.

Here is an article on stopping blogging by Giles Turnbull.

Labels: Blogging, books, Glengarry Leads

There are some blogs that I read daily, and others that I read occasionally. The Glengarry Leads is one of my daily reads. I was saddened to read his post yesterday,
, threatening to stop blogging.

Glengarry cannot understand why lots of people read his blog, and yet, noone talks back compared to those who read.The ratio is sick.

I have only been blogging for over two months now, and I can see what Glengarry is saying. I think it goes with the territory. I know how many people come in to read, but few people comment. I am happy that some people read, and that there are a loyal group who return regularly. I appreciate the comments that readers leave, but I guess I do not feel it would get me down if noone commented. There are some blogs that I come across, that I do not feel I have anything to comment on, ever.

I take what Glengarry says about feeling that he does not have that much to say any longer. I suppose that happens to all bloggers at some point.

Glengarry if you are reading this, please do not stop blogging. I find your blog, entertaining, thought provoking and informative. I feel you have a lot to say.

Here is James's B's view on Glengarry's post yesterday, and his view on why readers do not leave comments.

I came across this article in the Guardian, on how Blogs can be a place for great debate.

In Nobody's Perfect, his brilliant collection of reviews and essays, the New Yorker's film critic, Anthony Lane, writes: "I am merely starting an argument, as everyone does over dinner, or in a crowded bar, after going to see a film, and [the reader's] freedom to disagree is part of the fun." What an urbane, civilised vision of reader-critic interaction that is. I'd love to see his reaction to the Guardian arts blog, where the dynamic often suggests that the argument has spilled out of the crowded bar and escalated into a brawl in the car park.

I'd like to think this was a good thing. Certainly, it is an education. Like backroom comedy writers dragooned into performing late-night stand-up in a club full of tetchy drunks, this paper's critics have had to learn to deal with hecklers very quickly. The first time I experienced it, my offering was described as "stereotypically self-indulgent Guardian wank bordering on self-parody". I sulked for a bit, then got over it. All but the kindest critics have written unpleasant things about artists in their field, so we should learn to take a few knocks.

I'm not convinced, though, that what might politely be described as "robust" debate on the blog generates light as well as heat. The internet has always licensed people to be far ruder than they would be in a face-to-face encounter. In 1990, US attorney Mike Godwin formulated Godwin's Law: "As an online discussion grows longer, the probability of a comparison involving Nazis or Hitler approaches one." Similarly, as an arts blog discussion grows longer, the probability of the writer being branded "smug", "pointless", "arrogant" or "London-obsessed" approaches one.
There is an appetite for genuine debate on the web, but it is often drowned out by the howling of people who seem to regard the very existence of professional critics as an outrageous affront. The subtext is this: anyone can be a critic, so anyone who has the temerity to be paid for the privilege deserves to be put in the stocks.

Many of the people who post on blogs appear to be annoyed not by what the writers say so much as the fact that they're in a position to say it. You can spot this type because they write things like: "You've only written this to provoke a reaction." Or: "Why did you even write this? What a waste of time." As if writing to complain about a waste of time were not, in fact, a bigger waste of time. Or, my favourite: "Typical Guardian." Perhaps they also post on the website of Practical Caravan magazine, complaining: "Typical Practical Caravan. So caravancentric."

The most belligerent voices on the blogs speak with either a weary, condescending sneer or a florid pomposity redolent of Ignatius J Reilly in A Confederacy of Dunces. If, as they imply, their taste is flawless and their intellect mighty, then perhaps they could find a better use for these prodigious gifts than taking potshots on websites. Just a thought.

These are relatively early days. With time and luck, the good will out and the bad will lose the chips from their shoulders; or, failing that, find something better to do with those slow periods at work. Until then, at least, every critic knows that it is always better to be read than ignored. No amount of abuse at the foot of a blog is quite as disheartening as the dread phrase: "Comments (0)".

Here is the full article by Dorian Lynskey of the Guardian newspaper.

Calling all my hecklers. Blogs will be a great place for debate-once all that anger dies down.

What is your view on leaving comments?

Labels: Blogging, comments, Glengarry Leads, guardian, James B Logwriter

I had mentioned in my unexpected requests post that I had seen escorts offering their services on messageboards in exchange for different services.

These are Bluesladys comments in the unexpected requests post

"I have had offers of work in exchange for "favours". I have also had artists offering to let me have their work in exchange for mine.

The reason I always decline has nothing to do with undervaluing either individual, but simply it crosses boundaries, or makes them fuzzy at the edges. There is nothing quite as clinical as cold hard cash at the end of a lovely encounter. Everyone knows where they stand,and a return visit is far more likely :) "



I came across an interesting article yesterday, and women seem to be doing it in Iran.

1.Estimated number of Iranian women who work as prostitutes,300,000.
2.Average age of prostitutes in Iran 20. Many are girls who have run away from home.


In a smart boutique displaying an array of miniskirts and skimpy tops, the shopkeeper was too busy attending to his female customers to listen to a sermon on HIV/Aids. "I don't know anything about it at all. Come back after I've finished with my customers," he told the volunteer health education worker.

In the Qaem mall in north Tehran's affluent Tajrish district, where two floors are dedicated to women's fashion, several shopkeepers admitted to first-hand experience of receiving offers of sex. Arash, 23, said he had been propositioned 40 or 50 times in his store. "I reckon that 50% of shopkeepers have accepted sex in return for clothes," he said.

Ahmed Reza, 23, admitted having accepted such offers. "I was sitting outside the shop when two women came and said they wanted to try various manteaus [overcoats]," he said. "They asked for a bargain and I offered them the standard discount. But they said, 'We cannot pay that - if you give us a good discount and your mobile number, we will serve you'. So I gave them more discount and got their mobile numbers.

"I can tell a prostitute by their attitudes and body language. When she asks the price of something, I say it's much more than it really is. Then I reduce it when she asks for discount, so she think she's getting a great bargain and offers sex."

Deals between prostitutes and boutique owners raise fears over spread of disease, an article by Robert Tait of the Guardian.

Escort Advertising

I have come across some interesting posts by other bloggers regarding escorts advertising on the internet versus paper advertising.

LA Player has an intersting post on Price,Law and sex travel.

His post mentions that it is cheaper to advertise in the paper, where he is. This is not the case in the UK. Conversations that I have had with other escorts who advertise in papers, or magazines in London, prove that they spend more money on their advertising.

You pay X pounds to advertise on Eros per month. If I was to put an ad in my local paper it would cost me three times what I would pay for an Eros ad. The same applies to topshelf magazines. When the Herald Tribune ran ads, that was pretty expensive too, but the advertising was worth it. There are other magazines that are just as pricey. A friend had given me the name of a magazine that she used, that had rates that were in line with internet based sites. It did not work for me, but then I only advertised there for two months. I think the women who advertise in papers or magazines, are trying to cover all bases, and clearly not all clients look on the internet. The internet is easier for me. My friends who advertise in papers have hundreds, and I mean hundreds of calls per day. I could not deal with this. Their rates tend to be lower, in most cases, however they are busy. I believe you get more exposure on the internet. I am happy with internet advertising.

Here is a post from the Saafe site in the UK.Where to advertise.

Note that they do not mention any paper advertising. The cost of advertising on Punternet is very cheap and as they are the largest, most well known site in the UK, they send lots of traffic to anyone who advertises on there. On Captain 69, you pay for yearly membership, which is reasonable, and you can advertise on there.

Glengarry Leads has just come back from LA, and his post shows that paper advertising is working there.

Scarface thinks it is money down the drain in his post.

I know that it works for some escorts, but it is not a form of advertising that I want to use, as I am happy with what I do. As I said, the volume of calls is a major deterrent for me. I think there are also limitations on what you can put in your ads.

I read this story yesterday, and have so much respect for what Oprah Winfrey does.


Oprah Winfrey was already the planet's most watched talkshow host, one of America's most successful magazine publishers, a billionaire, an Oscar-nominated actor, the most important black philanthropist in the US and, according to several assessments, the most influential woman in the world.

So from one perspective, the school that she opened for 152 poor South African girls outside Johannesburg yesterday was perhaps not all that significant. But that was not how it felt for Buhle Zulu, 12, who found herself whisked from sleeping on a floor with six family members in Soweto to her own bedroom and bathroom in the site, funded with $40m (£20m) of Winfrey's $1.5bn fortune. The Oprah Winfrey Leadership Academy for Girls also features computer and science laboratories, a theatre, library, gymnasium, health centre, sports fields and beauty salon.


"I went to their homes. I know all of them by name. Their story is my story," Winfrey said. She had chosen "every brick, tile, sheet and spoon" in the academy herself, she added.

Mr Mandela, the 88-year-old former South African president, was helped to the stage by Winfrey. "The key to any country's future is in educating its youth," he told the audience. "Oprah is therefore not only investing in a few young individuals but in the future of our country. We are indebted to her for her selfless efforts. This is a lady that, despite her own disadvantaged background, has become one of the benefactors of the disadvantaged throughout the world and we should congratulate her for that."

"Their story is my story" an article by Andrew Meldrum of the Guardian.

Labels: advertising, Captain 69, Escorts, Glengarry Leads, guardian, Iran, LA player, News, Petulant Pooner, Prostitutes, Punternet, Saafe

I did my usual catch up on reading the messageboards this weekend. It is important to keep up with what is going on. Who to add to my blacklist, and which escorts to avoid.

The common issue on the boards that I read, seems to be market prices. Either the prices are too high, or they are dropping.

Thank you to those of you who sent me information on what is happening outside London.

There seems to be a lot of anxiety around. We have several camps.

The what do you get for 1000 pounds per hour, that you cannot get for 150-200 per hour camp.

The best is cheapest camp.

The most expensive is best camp.

If you charge a certain rate, you belong to the wham bam market camp. However, some clients have found quality girls at cheap prices.

Then we have the you get what you pay for camp.

Finally, which surprised me, was the we have reached an all time low camp, and what will happen with the expected influx of escorts from Bulgaria and Romania.

What do I think about all this?

Well, I think that visiting an escort is a luxury, and the prices are reasonable for a luxury product. I also believe that a higher price does not guarantee a quality experience, and lots of reviews give evidence of this. I believe that there are lots of quality providers at every level of the industry. My view on the women who charge 5000 pounds plus for their time, is if they can get it, take it.

I have no fears about escorts coming in from Bulgaria and Romania. I believe there is room for everyone.Different people like different things.

For the US view on this, Glengarry always has something interesting to say.

What is all the fuss about?

It is only money after all, right?

*Gets flame retardent coat and heads to the train station*

Have a good week!

Labels: Black escort, Escort rates, Glengarry Leads

I had a conversation with another escort yesterday which I found really disturbing. Her identity, and address were posted on a messageboard, by another member.She has decided to leave the industry as a result.

I find the whole messageboard culture, fascinating and sickening. The first messageboard that I ever came across was the Punternet messageboard, which no longer exists.. I think it went down as a result of flame wars, allegations, accusations, and identities being revealed.

I think for someone who is new to the industry messageboards can give you some insight into what happens. I found some useful information on there, from other escorts, and the warning boards are useful too. I have also made contact with other escorts via the messageboards.

There is another side, that I find disturbing. The trolls, and the people who go into attack mode, for no reason, and resort to destroying lives. I have read about information being painted on front doors, tracking down members at work, and leaving threats,visits to schools, and it goes on and on and on.

There was an article in the Guardian on Monday about Celebrity Untouchables. It talked about how there is a law for some celebrities, and another for the rest of us. The idea of living a life beyond accountability and judgement might be many people's idea of heaven on earth, and this explains why large numbers of ordinary folk continue to crave celebrity.

Celebrities exist on the various messageboards, and you can see that they are able to do and say things that other members cannot get away with.Moderation on some boards is a joke.Some posts that are offensive, are allowed to stand on boards,well logically if a post is left to stand then it conforms to what the board owner wants or is happy to be posted.

I resent the fact that some people feel that they have the right to endanger lives. There is a lot of bullying that takes place on boards, and the people who dish out, are rarely able to take what is thrown at them.

I wonder whether anyone has done any research on messageboard culture on the internet?

I belong to other forums that have nothing to do with this industry, and the dynamics are similar, so I wonder whether it is just how some people behave, and are programmed, it is part of their nature.

I wonder whether the sense of gratification, and recognition that they get by behaving in this way, is important to them?

I think for the individuals who have been victims of these campaigns on messageboards, it is devastating, and ruins their lives. It sickens me, and saddens me, and I feel for anyone out there who has been on the receiving end of this behaviour.

My view is most of the people who carry out these attacks have major issues that they need to take to a therapist, but they are in so much denial that they believe they do not have issues.

A friend who I met via a messageboard said to me , a message board is a dictatorship, within any dictatorship any rules are merely the current whim of the dictator, because it is a dictatorship then any and all rules are there to be obeyed or ignored at the whim of the dictator thus rendering them useless, which in actual fact they are, if the rules were set in stone and enforced then that would reduce the power of the dictator.

Glengarry Leads points out what is happening in the US, and the use and abuse of power by messageboard celebrities.

It seems to be a universal problem.

Labels: Glengarry Leads, guardian, Messageboards, Punternet

I have just read what poor Glengarry leads has to put up with.

Clearly, the likes of Adultwork would not survive in Seattle.

Why did I think it was liberal in the USA???????

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