Nia Dark and Lovely, a Black Escort in London

I have had a high number of calls from clients in the past few weeks, who want to see me now.

I state clearly on my site, that I need notice most of the time. Occasionally, I can accomodate clients who call me on the off chance. What I picked up from these clients was, how irritated they were that they could not see me right away.

I wonder whether these men assume :

1. That I work from home(I do not), and am sitting there painting my nails waiting for the phone to ring.

2.That my whole day is free, and there is noone else booked, so I can always fit them in.

3. I do not have a life with other commitments.

I understand that when some men have the urge they want it now, however to assume they can be accomodated all the time, is not realistic. I think escort agencies tend to have escorts available at all times.

Maybe it is like calling the doctor, when you are ill. The receptionist tells you, that if you want an appointment you need to call two weeks in advance. I do not know that I am going to be ill in advance.

Some of my clients make advance bookings. Most of them do not live in London, and want to make sure they will see me, when they are here. My London clients who make advance bookings, have to find free time in the day that will not arouse suspicion, and so have to plan things carefully.

Chevalier has a post on his timing for appointments.

He has another post on Last Minute appointments.

Is arousal any different if you plan ahead or want it now?

Labels: Black escort, Chevalier, clients, Policies and Procedures, Thoughts

I have a number of expectations and assumptions about the clients that I see.

I assume that Firstimers will be nervous and not clear about what they want or need.

I expect my regulars to behave, and assume they will not push the boundaries, which does not always happen. Most of the time they are a joy to be with.

I assume that clients who contact me, and tell me what their handle is on messageboards will be hard work. I assume they may ask for discounts, because they are prolific reviewers. I have read that some threaten girls with negative reviews, if they do not get their own way. Fortunately, none of this has happened to me.

I assume and expect that clients who have been recommended by friends will be okay.

Do you have any expectations or assumptions?

Do you think a client would react differently to an escort that he was seeing as a reward, as opposed to an escort that he saw regularly for stress relief?

Do men have different expectations of escorts who are Independent, Agency, well reviewed, not reviewed, very expensive and standard rate?

Labels: assumptions, Black escort, Escort Blacklist, Expectations, London, Policies and Procedures

What a beautiful day it is today. If only it were a bit warmer.

I do not understand why men call up and say they want details. I raised this issue last year on the Punternet message board which is now defunct.

What response do you want?

I can appreciate that the response will vary with each individual.

Most of the information that I am asked for, is already on my website.

What is the thinking behind calling and asking for questions that are already on my website?

I have heard all the arguments for this.

Some men say they just had a quick glance at the site, and took down the number. They want to sound you out over the telephone. They want to know what to expect. Well that is covered in the reviews fully, and if you do not see what you are looking for, then take it, that it is not available.

I had a conversation with someone a while ago. He was unable to elicit a certain type of response from me. The conversation went along these lines.

"Do you Provide X?"
"Yup."
"Really?"
"Yup." I do not but was onto him.
"Do you see men who are Black,Asian or Oriental?"
"Yes." I wonder whether he is all three.
"Can I be rough with you?"
"Yup" Of course not, I am just playing along.
" I am 6ft 9in and well endowed, is that a problem?"
"No, all my boyfriends have been larger than you."

Surprise, surprise, the conversation ended suddenly. I think my last response rattled his concept of himself.

I am aware that there are genuine callers out there, wankers and timewasters. Yes, this all goes with the territory. I am not opposed to answering questions; however there are some questions that I will not answer. The details questions is one of them, and anyone who asks this question will be referred to my website.

I know some escorts have receptionists,or an answering service to deal with these types of callers.I think it is a good idea, and weeds out the timewasters, however I tend to like to know who I am talking to. I think the details question may be appropriate in a parlour, that may not have a site, where you can enquire who is working, stats, what is and is not provided.

Teela sanders

in her book says that " escorts start from a position of distrust until proven otherwise.She also mentions that an escort decides whether a client is genuine or not based on the information she observes or can further acquire."

There is a whole section on picking clients and she says that "escorts test their clients on the telephone.To leave the impression that they are trustworthy, callers must display a range of qualities in the initial telephone conversation. A straightforward approach, asking for an appointment without going into detail of the service or the price, is considered a genuine request. Polite language and a respectful tone suggest the caller is safe enough to move on to another stage."

I agree with all her points. This is my perspective based on my experiences. I do answer some questions, but definitely not the details question.

There is a discussion about this on the Punterlink forum for those of you who want to read more.

I do not seem to be the only one who has a problem with the way some clients ask me questions. I agree with Compartment's methods.

Labels: Black escort, escorting, Friction, London, Policies and Procedures, Punterlink, Punternet, Teela Sanders