Wednesday, December 06, 2006
Expectations and Assumptions
I have a number of expectations and assumptions about the clients that I see.
I assume that Firstimers will be nervous and not clear about what they want or need.
I expect my regulars to behave, and assume they will not push the boundaries, which does not always happen. Most of the time they are a joy to be with.
I assume that clients who contact me, and tell me what their handle is on messageboards will be hard work. I assume they may ask for discounts, because they are prolific reviewers. I have read that some threaten girls with negative reviews, if they do not get their own way. Fortunately, none of this has happened to me.
I assume and expect that clients who have been recommended by friends will be okay.
Do you have any expectations or assumptions?
Do you think a client would react differently to an escort that he was seeing as a reward, as opposed to an escort that he saw regularly for stress relief?
Do men have different expectations of escorts who are Independent, Agency, well reviewed, not reviewed, very expensive and standard rate?
I assume that Firstimers will be nervous and not clear about what they want or need.
I expect my regulars to behave, and assume they will not push the boundaries, which does not always happen. Most of the time they are a joy to be with.
I assume that clients who contact me, and tell me what their handle is on messageboards will be hard work. I assume they may ask for discounts, because they are prolific reviewers. I have read that some threaten girls with negative reviews, if they do not get their own way. Fortunately, none of this has happened to me.
I assume and expect that clients who have been recommended by friends will be okay.
Do you have any expectations or assumptions?
Do you think a client would react differently to an escort that he was seeing as a reward, as opposed to an escort that he saw regularly for stress relief?
Do men have different expectations of escorts who are Independent, Agency, well reviewed, not reviewed, very expensive and standard rate?
Labels: assumptions, Black escort, Escort Blacklist, Expectations, London, Policies and Procedures
Sunday, November 19, 2006
Regular clients a mixed blessing for escorts
I sometimes feel that I would prefer all my clients to be regulars. They are loyal. Purely, from a psychological perspective, it is easier for me to deal with regulars. However, I find that occasionally the boundaries do get blurred. Guys sometimes want that bit more, and it is not possible. It becomes awkward as these are people that I have been seeing for a while, and I have to be quite sensitive as to how I spell out what is and is not likely to happen. I admit that over time, I lower my defenses which I feel is inevitable, but can be problematic.
I had two regulars last year, who tried to pull a fast one on me. I was stunned.
Should I have expected this?
They are on my blacklist.
I am aware that there are some regulars who if I met them in another context, I would spend time with. I think it can be a challenge to work within this framework, without being labelled as cold, a clock watcher or just in it for the money.
Trying to keep the relationship commercial is tricky. Some guys I meet feel that it is personal, and the thing is, people that I have personal relationships with do not pay me. The relationship with a client is intimate, two people relating to each other. At some point, someone may tend to see things for more than what they are.
I have had clients who helped me out with advice on certain things, and have refused payment. There has been no expectation that I pay them in kind.
I do give my regulars more leeway than non regulars.
I know that some escorts get round this problem by stating that they will only see regular clients for a limited number of times, which I think is a sensible policy.Escorts are entitled to set rules that fit, for them.
I had a conversation about this with a friend who is a male escort and he felt that there were two kinds of regulars.
Static regulars who know what they want, never change, are loyal and you want to keep forever; and who are accordingly very rare.
Escalating regulars who start out as a good thing but either end up wanting you to move in with them (so they can look after you) or who meet you at the door one day brandishing a riding crop and saying
"I thought we would do a bit of spanking! You do not mind if I come in your eyes after I have leathered you, do you?"
who are more common, but finite, and who someone you thought was a static may suddenly metamorphose into an escalating at any moment.
I can identify with my friend's view. Suddenly an expectation that I will provide something that is not on offer. A sudden need for me to take an A level exam when I have no interest in that whatsoever. A client once said to me
" But you do that with your boyfriend, so why not with me ?"
My response " I don't think so honey." I spared him the long spiel of how he could never be my boyfriend.
Bringing the conversation back into the here and now, remember why we are here, some clients find difficult to take on board.
I love my regulars but someone has to maintain a business framework, and deal with expectations (realistic or not) and implement the boundaries with kindness and respect.
I had two regulars last year, who tried to pull a fast one on me. I was stunned.
Should I have expected this?
They are on my blacklist.
I am aware that there are some regulars who if I met them in another context, I would spend time with. I think it can be a challenge to work within this framework, without being labelled as cold, a clock watcher or just in it for the money.
Trying to keep the relationship commercial is tricky. Some guys I meet feel that it is personal, and the thing is, people that I have personal relationships with do not pay me. The relationship with a client is intimate, two people relating to each other. At some point, someone may tend to see things for more than what they are.
I have had clients who helped me out with advice on certain things, and have refused payment. There has been no expectation that I pay them in kind.
I do give my regulars more leeway than non regulars.
I know that some escorts get round this problem by stating that they will only see regular clients for a limited number of times, which I think is a sensible policy.Escorts are entitled to set rules that fit, for them.
I had a conversation about this with a friend who is a male escort and he felt that there were two kinds of regulars.
Static regulars who know what they want, never change, are loyal and you want to keep forever; and who are accordingly very rare.
Escalating regulars who start out as a good thing but either end up wanting you to move in with them (so they can look after you) or who meet you at the door one day brandishing a riding crop and saying
"I thought we would do a bit of spanking! You do not mind if I come in your eyes after I have leathered you, do you?"
who are more common, but finite, and who someone you thought was a static may suddenly metamorphose into an escalating at any moment.
I can identify with my friend's view. Suddenly an expectation that I will provide something that is not on offer. A sudden need for me to take an A level exam when I have no interest in that whatsoever. A client once said to me
" But you do that with your boyfriend, so why not with me ?"
My response " I don't think so honey." I spared him the long spiel of how he could never be my boyfriend.
Bringing the conversation back into the here and now, remember why we are here, some clients find difficult to take on board.
I love my regulars but someone has to maintain a business framework, and deal with expectations (realistic or not) and implement the boundaries with kindness and respect.
Labels: Black escort, Escort Blacklist, escorting, London, Regulars
