Sunday, November 12, 2006
She was too professional
What does this mean?
Is she an Ice queen?
Is it about an escort keeping within her boundaries?
There is a section in
Live sex acts by Wendy Chapkis
One of the sex workers, describes the boundaries that doctors, firefighters, psychiatrists need to keep in place, to do their work. Her view is that as an escort if you do this, it is somehow not acceptable, or your clients do not like it.
This is from
Sex work writings by women in the sex industry by Delacoste and Alexander
Peggy morgan an exotic dancer says
"The macho insecure types need more. On some level they know what a great equalizer prostitution is, and they are not satisfied with a simple business transaction. Not only do we have to work at getting them off and making them feel good, but we have to put up with their clumsy, grubby hands pawing our bodies-and pretend to enjoy it. It is not that these customers really want to please a woman-most of the time these are the same ones who will argue about money or make a fuss about having to pay up front. They simply want to feel power over the whore, who is by implication of her class and gender someone beneath them."
It is difficult to gauge what each individual client wants or needs, as I have raised in the guessing game.
Some clients want some conversation, and want you to be friendly, and some clients want to get down to action as soon as possible.
I had a client who did not want me to say a word, when we met. He cringed any time, I spoke. The conversation consisted of a few words, hello, thank you, and directions to the bathroom.
It felt really weird initially, as he was someone that I saw frequently, and I usually ask clients how they have been. Some small talk is necessary, for me. However, after a while it did not matter. He was a lonely man, who lacked social skills, and never initiated any conversation, and clearly did not want any.
It is so tricky, because if you are chatty, you can be accused of talking too much, and wasting valuable time, and if you say nothing, you risk being labelled as too professional. The other disadvantage around being friendly, is a client picking up the wrong signals, and believing that there is more to the relationship.
There have been debates about some of these clients on other messageboards.The men who want action asap, who are also known as men who want you to meet them with your knickers round your ankles . Or they are also known as men who just want to empty their tanks, and are usually advised by women on other boards to go to brothels.
So what is too professional in your view?
Or
What is it for an escort to be unprofessional?
I have just come across this on another messageboard. I tend to check my email at work.
Does anyone have any infomation on the legal position in the UK?
Is she an Ice queen?
Is it about an escort keeping within her boundaries?
There is a section in
Live sex acts by Wendy Chapkis
One of the sex workers, describes the boundaries that doctors, firefighters, psychiatrists need to keep in place, to do their work. Her view is that as an escort if you do this, it is somehow not acceptable, or your clients do not like it.
This is from
Sex work writings by women in the sex industry by Delacoste and Alexander
Peggy morgan an exotic dancer says
"The macho insecure types need more. On some level they know what a great equalizer prostitution is, and they are not satisfied with a simple business transaction. Not only do we have to work at getting them off and making them feel good, but we have to put up with their clumsy, grubby hands pawing our bodies-and pretend to enjoy it. It is not that these customers really want to please a woman-most of the time these are the same ones who will argue about money or make a fuss about having to pay up front. They simply want to feel power over the whore, who is by implication of her class and gender someone beneath them."
It is difficult to gauge what each individual client wants or needs, as I have raised in the guessing game.
Some clients want some conversation, and want you to be friendly, and some clients want to get down to action as soon as possible.
I had a client who did not want me to say a word, when we met. He cringed any time, I spoke. The conversation consisted of a few words, hello, thank you, and directions to the bathroom.
It felt really weird initially, as he was someone that I saw frequently, and I usually ask clients how they have been. Some small talk is necessary, for me. However, after a while it did not matter. He was a lonely man, who lacked social skills, and never initiated any conversation, and clearly did not want any.
It is so tricky, because if you are chatty, you can be accused of talking too much, and wasting valuable time, and if you say nothing, you risk being labelled as too professional. The other disadvantage around being friendly, is a client picking up the wrong signals, and believing that there is more to the relationship.
There have been debates about some of these clients on other messageboards.The men who want action asap, who are also known as men who want you to meet them with your knickers round your ankles . Or they are also known as men who just want to empty their tanks, and are usually advised by women on other boards to go to brothels.
So what is too professional in your view?
Or
What is it for an escort to be unprofessional?
I have just come across this on another messageboard. I tend to check my email at work.
Does anyone have any infomation on the legal position in the UK?
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