Thursday, May 31, 2007
Escorts and Body Image
I have started watching How to look good naked on channel four, on Tuesday .
I prefer this makeover programme to others that I have seen, and like Gok Wan's approach.
He does not attempt to change any of the women on the show with plastic surgery, but works with what they have, and teaches them to love their bodies as they are.
The escort industry is focused on how you look, there is no getting away from that. However, clients tastes are varied, and I believe there is work for everyone out there, as I mentioned in Kiss my Fat Ass. We do not all need to be one size.
Most of the escorts that I have met, have parts of their bodies that they do not like. Watching the programme, and seeing the women and their confidence shift, was amazing.
As escorts I believe that we need to have a certain amount of confidence in our bodies ; as we are naked with total strangers most of the time.
Labels: Black escort, London, Perception, Thoughts
Tuesday, February 13, 2007
Kiss my Fat Ass!
I read about this at the weekend, and admire Tyra Banks for making this statement.The fat police are on her case, and I think they need their heads examined.
The media took snipes at her in her swimsuit, and she did not retreat, and start dieting. No, Tyra has more to her than that, she stood up to them. She went on her show and confronted her critics with this Bank Statement.
The You tube clip leaves out the Kiss my Fat Ass at the end, so if you want to see the effect on her audience, view the clip on Tyra's show
You go Tyra!
You can also read Tyra and the Fat Police by Rachel Johnson of the Times and Banks bites back by Barbara Ellen of the Observer.
Fortunately my weight is not something that I lose sleep over. It is something that I have become more aware of since I started escorting.
My mother can be described as petite and is a UK size 8. I think she needs to put on weight. She was a 10 at her heaviest, and a size 6, at her smallest. She has made references to my weight throughout my life, but it has not had any effect whatsoever. She does look good, and is one of those people who could eat six meals a day, and not put on an ounce.She is blessed with a high metabolic rate. Life is so unfair!
Whenever I go home I get lots of mixed messages. That I would look great if I lost some weight, but in the same breath she tells me to eat more than I do, and wants to cook a whole range of food for me. Then I get the lecture about how important it is to be healthy, and eat properly. Then when I do lose weight, I am told that I should not lose anymore. Anyway, I take no notice of her, and as I say it has not affected me. So all those theories about parents affecting the way children think about themselves, did not work on me.
As an escort there is a lot of focus on how you look. It is constant. I believe you can get consumed by this, and start obsessing. I do not think it is healthy.
For those escorts who work all day, every day, who answer their own phones, it can be difficult. If you get a string of callers enquiring about your weight,stats, body mass index etc, it can take its toll on you. This is where I believe a recorded message comes in as very handy,to deal with the stats clients.
I know three high profile escorts in the UK, who have each had negative reviews, criticising their weight. What is sad, is that all these women have multiple reviews that are positive. However, the single negative reviews, have impacted on them. One, went on a crash diet after the review, and became ill. Another is constantly having nips and tucks, to the point where there is nothing to nip and tuck anymore.She was a top model. The third escort, has low self esteem, and cannot hold onto all the positive things that have been said about her. I think these three women look gorgeous, but sadly they feel differently about themselves.
If there are any escorts out there who are reading this, who have these issues there is something I want to say to you.
There is a market for everybody. Size zero escort,BBW or anywhere in between.
Yes, there are a number of clients who are only interested in your stats, and how much you weigh. However, some clients may also book you because of your rate, skin colour, sense of humour,personality, location, or just the fact that their mouse hit your site and bingo!
We do make money from how we look, but I do not feel it is necessary to incarcerate yourself about it.
As Tyra says, some women have died trying to be thin, and in my view it is not worth it.
You can never be everyone's cup of tea.If clients do not like it, they can vote with their feet.
The media took snipes at her in her swimsuit, and she did not retreat, and start dieting. No, Tyra has more to her than that, she stood up to them. She went on her show and confronted her critics with this Bank Statement.
The You tube clip leaves out the Kiss my Fat Ass at the end, so if you want to see the effect on her audience, view the clip on Tyra's show
You go Tyra!
You can also read Tyra and the Fat Police by Rachel Johnson of the Times and Banks bites back by Barbara Ellen of the Observer.
Fortunately my weight is not something that I lose sleep over. It is something that I have become more aware of since I started escorting.
My mother can be described as petite and is a UK size 8. I think she needs to put on weight. She was a 10 at her heaviest, and a size 6, at her smallest. She has made references to my weight throughout my life, but it has not had any effect whatsoever. She does look good, and is one of those people who could eat six meals a day, and not put on an ounce.She is blessed with a high metabolic rate. Life is so unfair!
Whenever I go home I get lots of mixed messages. That I would look great if I lost some weight, but in the same breath she tells me to eat more than I do, and wants to cook a whole range of food for me. Then I get the lecture about how important it is to be healthy, and eat properly. Then when I do lose weight, I am told that I should not lose anymore. Anyway, I take no notice of her, and as I say it has not affected me. So all those theories about parents affecting the way children think about themselves, did not work on me.
As an escort there is a lot of focus on how you look. It is constant. I believe you can get consumed by this, and start obsessing. I do not think it is healthy.
For those escorts who work all day, every day, who answer their own phones, it can be difficult. If you get a string of callers enquiring about your weight,stats, body mass index etc, it can take its toll on you. This is where I believe a recorded message comes in as very handy,to deal with the stats clients.
I know three high profile escorts in the UK, who have each had negative reviews, criticising their weight. What is sad, is that all these women have multiple reviews that are positive. However, the single negative reviews, have impacted on them. One, went on a crash diet after the review, and became ill. Another is constantly having nips and tucks, to the point where there is nothing to nip and tuck anymore.She was a top model. The third escort, has low self esteem, and cannot hold onto all the positive things that have been said about her. I think these three women look gorgeous, but sadly they feel differently about themselves.
If there are any escorts out there who are reading this, who have these issues there is something I want to say to you.
There is a market for everybody. Size zero escort,BBW or anywhere in between.
Yes, there are a number of clients who are only interested in your stats, and how much you weigh. However, some clients may also book you because of your rate, skin colour, sense of humour,personality, location, or just the fact that their mouse hit your site and bingo!
We do make money from how we look, but I do not feel it is necessary to incarcerate yourself about it.
As Tyra says, some women have died trying to be thin, and in my view it is not worth it.
You can never be everyone's cup of tea.If clients do not like it, they can vote with their feet.
Labels: Black escort, News, Observer, Perception, Times, Tyra Banks, video
Wednesday, February 07, 2007
Decision Making
Occasionally a client will ask me when I started working.
I know this is important for some people.
Does the length of service affect the type of experience you think you will receive?
What are you looking for when you ask this question?
Young and fresh, or old, cynical and burned out.
Is it clear cut?
I wonder whether some men target newbies, as they feel they are amateur, and can take advantage of them.
Can we draw any links?
The few escorts that I have met and know ,that are successful, have been around for a number of years. However, I have read about some newbies, who are successful,too.
Does length of service influence the decision making process for you?
Similar to clients making decisions based on; how many clients escorts claim, they see a week. My view is that in most cases, you will be told what you want to hear.
Is it all about perception?
Is this one of the reasons why some escorts reinvent themselves, with multiple websites?
Labels: Black escort, clients, London, Perception, Thoughts
