Friday, December 08, 2006
Paying for it
I have just finished reading
Paying for it by Greta Christina
Greta says that customers often assume that sex workers lie to them.She says sex workers often assume that customers don't particularly care about them or their well-being. They often assume that most customers are out for as much they can get for as little money as possible, and that if a customer expresses caring or affection,it's a sign that he's a dupe or a nutcase or both, a self-deceived fool with an overactive fantasy life. And this assumption isn't always wrong, either. Much like customers in any business, sex work customers can often be deeply self-deceived and/or monumental jerks. They aren't always, but they can be. There's also a common assumption that the exchange of money is proof that sex workers don't care about their customers , and that in fact they hold their customers in contempt for being pathetic losers who have to pay for it.
The various contributors in the book, come from all sections of the industry. It is easy to read, funny and a guide that I would recommend to all clients.
James B Logwriter has some FAQ for clients, taken from his numerous, and varied experiences .
I have also finished reading The scent of dried roses by Tim Lott For anyone who has friends or family who is depressed, or suicidal this gives a moving insight into what it is like.It is moving, honest and sad. It also gives a detailed history of the working class background that Tim came from in Southall and Ladbroke Grove.
The Maytree organisation is also a useful resource that I came across for anyone who is suicidal in London.
I had a brush with suicide here.
Half my christmas shopping is done, and I have started on the cards, I am getting there.
Have a good week.
Paying for it by Greta Christina
Greta says that customers often assume that sex workers lie to them.She says sex workers often assume that customers don't particularly care about them or their well-being. They often assume that most customers are out for as much they can get for as little money as possible, and that if a customer expresses caring or affection,it's a sign that he's a dupe or a nutcase or both, a self-deceived fool with an overactive fantasy life. And this assumption isn't always wrong, either. Much like customers in any business, sex work customers can often be deeply self-deceived and/or monumental jerks. They aren't always, but they can be. There's also a common assumption that the exchange of money is proof that sex workers don't care about their customers , and that in fact they hold their customers in contempt for being pathetic losers who have to pay for it.
The various contributors in the book, come from all sections of the industry. It is easy to read, funny and a guide that I would recommend to all clients.
James B Logwriter has some FAQ for clients, taken from his numerous, and varied experiences .
I have also finished reading The scent of dried roses by Tim Lott
For anyone who has friends or family who is depressed, or suicidal this gives a moving insight into what it is like.It is moving, honest and sad. It also gives a detailed history of the working class background that Tim came from in Southall and Ladbroke Grove.The Maytree organisation is also a useful resource that I came across for anyone who is suicidal in London.
I had a brush with suicide here.
Half my christmas shopping is done, and I have started on the cards, I am getting there.
Have a good week.
Labels: Black escort, books, James B Logwriter, Payment, Suicide
Sunday, October 29, 2006
They say things happen in threes
Welcome to my blog. This is my second attempt at writing, and I am going to try to stick to it now.
It has been a strange week. A friend lost a sibling to suicide, and she is devastated as you can imagine. What can you say?
Suicide is one of the most complicated forms of grief,for those who are left behind, who are left constantly asking why it happened, and looking at all the ways in which they could have prevented it from happening.
For anyone out there who is in this situation there is a support group, which is really useful that I discovered.
The Survivors of suicide bereavment support group.
Here is some further reading for those of you who are interested, if you can stomach it!
The suicidal mind by Edwin Shneidman
It is an academic text but very useful.
The rest of my week has been spent trying to dodge dog poo, and I have not found it amusing. Why is it that the dog owners, cannot pick up after their dogs??????
Have a great week.
It has been a strange week. A friend lost a sibling to suicide, and she is devastated as you can imagine. What can you say?
Suicide is one of the most complicated forms of grief,for those who are left behind, who are left constantly asking why it happened, and looking at all the ways in which they could have prevented it from happening.
For anyone out there who is in this situation there is a support group, which is really useful that I discovered.
The Survivors of suicide bereavment support group.
Here is some further reading for those of you who are interested, if you can stomach it!
The suicidal mind by Edwin Shneidman
It is an academic text but very useful.
The rest of my week has been spent trying to dodge dog poo, and I have not found it amusing. Why is it that the dog owners, cannot pick up after their dogs??????
Have a great week.
Labels: Beginnings, Black escort, books, Suicide
