Friday, April 09, 2010

It is not a case of being a hooker or not

Today Tracy Quan explains what the half hooker economy is. The so called semi pros, versus the hard core, real hookers.

It feels like the whole naming and defining debate to me, all over again.

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'Prostitute' is such an emotive word. That one single word puts us below the rest of society, and yet it defines the woman who accepts money for personal services, no matter what those services may be.........

Escort. Pah. I hate that word. It glorifies and glamorises what we do. It can only apply to a percentage of working girls, the ones who actually are escorts. By deinition that is someone who accompanies someone else to another place. No?

For me, the term sex worker or working girl will suffice. I personally would not use the term Courtesan because it cuts out a large chunk of the marketplace. I don't want to be choosy, I don't want dinner dates, or overnights. I don't want to go to the theatre. If I wish to do any of this I will do it in my private life, with family and friends.
I do not wish to be seen 'out and about' with men thank you. I prefer private liasons in my apartment affording my clieent the utmost of discretion, and doubly so affording it to myself which is far more important:)

However.. we are all prostitutes, and until the word itself is used in a non emotive way, it will always be a brick around our pretty necks.

Great subject Nia.

Sarah x
 
I think the article does though raise the issue of what constitutes paying for sex.

If I take a woman out for a lovely evening, buy an expensive dinner, the best wine, perhaps even a small present and she thinks - well he's spent a lot on me tonight and I quite like him so ...

Have I paid for sex? Has she sold herself?

If I ask a woman friend to accompany me on an expensive all expenses paid holiday? Well surely she would want to share a room with me ...

I read an article once about a woman who started a relationship with a very wealthy married man who travelled the world on business. As the presents turned more expensive and even a car and an apartment ... was it only really when he offered her an allowance so she could give up work to be available for him when he was in town that it clicked she was being paid for sex and he had a similar woman in every city?

I am sure there are many women being "paid" for sex in one of these ways who would be horified to be described as prostitutes ...

... but just maybe they are????

Interesting topic Nia

B xx
 
Beau,

to be pedantic, no they are not prostitutes because they didn't have an hourly rate:)
 
Ah - but I think it is only "high class escorts" like yourself, Sarah *ducks quickly to avoid flying crockery* who have hourly rates. I doubt the woman working the streets charges by the hour - or even by the minute - but perhaps by the service!

And how about the woman in my example who was a mistress of a rich businessman. Wasn't she being paid by the month once he gave her an allowance?

B xx
 
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